Ok so I’m not sure if I shouldn’t have name changed for this. I have been married to my DH for 12 years but we have been sexless for about 6 of those years. I would say that we have moved into the “ friends zone “ but I have generally had a low libido over that time so have felt untroubled by this. During the last couple of months I have experienced some changes in my period ( closer together and shorter) and have had low moods and irritability which I guess indicate a move towards menopause. Another pretty terrifying symptom is the massive increase in my libido - almost uncontrollable. I’ve looked online and discovered a website which refers to this as a midlife sex surge. Has anyone else experienced anything like this and come through the other side? It sounds like a good problem to have ( in comparison to no libido) but I have nowhere to put these feelings and feel to desperate and scared that I’m going to do something life destroying. Any help would be appreciated.
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Ugh, I had this at 48. Fortunately I didn’t do anything to ruin my marriage or life but it was scary and confusing. I do tend to think that things that are intense burn out faster, at least mine did. Maybe take up running? Or horseback riding? 
Sorry, I’ll show myself out.
Omg ladies where did you all come from? . ( I’m the OP). I’m sat on the train nearly crying because I was feeling really alone with this and no one had really answered initially ( I haven’t checked this thread for ages) My god it’s all good and bad at the same time. I can’t really post too much since I didn’t sodding name change initially but I can tell you that I’m a regular at Love Honey Thank you all for posting I’m so grateful. Ps I’ve signed up to that website re Sex surge and get weekly emails which are interesting but I’m still uncertain of what the future holds for me re sexless marriage.
I’ve also had a massive crush on my friend / colleague/ boss 
who is aware and is stoically continuing to be my friend despite my sometimes inappropriate suggestions. God help me if the roles were reversed I would probably have a decent sexual harassment case!
My friend (ie crush) started a bit of fairly innocent, but naughty, flirting with me a few months ago. I don't think he expected the reaction he got. I certainly didn't.
Got it back under control on the surface, but in my head...another matter. And I think he knows it.
Just thank goodness no one else has a clue, and I'm such a sensible person, they would never guess.
My surge started in December and although it’s still very much alive and kicking it’s not as strong as it was in the first early weeks. At one point I could barely stand to be close to a handsome colleague who was a bit flirtatious with me. If you could die of lust I would be a corpse on the floor - it was so excruciatingly. In the end I ended up in a “ sexting” situation with the guy which turns out does little to quell the flames.
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Thanks ofthread so you don’t think the crotchless knickers will help no?
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