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What is the difference between perimenopause and the menopause? How do you avoid weight gain? Does the menopause magnet work? And ye gods, tell us how to get a good night's sleep! Luckily Gransnet has put together the most useful tips for navigating those muddy menopausal waters. Mumsnet has not checked the qualifications of anyone posting here. If you have any medical concerns do consult your GP.

Tips for 48y mum with perimenopause

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yummyeclair Fri 03-Nov-17 21:06:23

Hi all, Thanks in advance for any tips to keep me sane/get energy as I think I am in perimenopause but funding I get tired so quickly plus all the usual symptoms. I am losing my sense of humour whilst juggling DS 1 7y,ears , DS2 6 years DM 82 & work part-time with DH in family business and he is noticing my mood swings and I seem to have much less patience with DC. Just Can't to manage to do essential daily stuff and feeling overwhelmed. Any pratical help yourself tips in how to get through this phase will be aporeciated.

yummyeclair Tue 07-Nov-17 08:27:18


Fucky Tue 07-Nov-17 08:32:05

Hrt! Best tip ever grin

yummyeclair Tue 07-Nov-17 09:02:47

Fucky, any tips on convincing doctor I am in perimenopause as test came back negative last year?

AmyGMumsnet (MNHQ) Tue 07-Nov-17 10:50:55

Hello everyone, the OP has asked that we move this over to the Menopause topic, so we'll be doing that shortly. Thanks!

yummyeclair Tue 07-Nov-17 11:07:41


PollyPerky Tue 07-Nov-17 11:10:07

Blood tests are unreliable unless you are having a premature menopause (under 45) or are already post meno (usually over 555) which is why NICE has advised GPs not to do them (see NICE menopause guidelines 2125) but to go by the woman's symptoms. Yet another example of a GP not having a clue sad

So, go and list your symptoms as you have here and if necessary print off the relevant part (Diagnosis) from the NICE report - all online, easily found.

If your Gp remains useless, see another one.

PollyPerky Tue 07-Nov-17 11:10:31

555! LOL

TheVanguardSix Tue 07-Nov-17 11:19:37

Hi OP. I am 45 and although I am not there yet, my dear, dear friend had an early menopause at 42 and my sister in law is currently slam bang in the midst of it. She is 45.

At 45, I have 3 kids, my youngest are 7 and 3 and it's so wonderful but it is tough because our bodies are changing in our mid-late 40s, our careers can change/stagnate at this age, and this can also be the case for our partners.Combined with this, we have the responsibility and the worry of our elderly parents. So not only are our bodies out of balance, life in general can be off-kilter. Lots of change! And then we're managing our own family's daily needs.

Both my friend and sister in law have said that anti-depressants and HRT helped them loads. You can talk to your GP about taking one or the other, or possibly both depending on the severity of your symptoms.

I think anything to help us get through this patch in our lives is worth it! Why suffer?

Good luck!

PollyPerky Tue 07-Nov-17 13:22:24

There is actually a bit of a drive to get women off ADs when what they need is HRT. In the past far too many women going through peri meno were medicated with ADs which NICE says now are NOT the right treatment for menopausal issues. It's a real shame that so many women were misprescribed. If someone is clinically depressed and it's def not hormonal, fair enough, but if it starts with peri it is recommended to treat with estrogen; this is the current medical advice.
ADs just blunt emotions - they don't deal with issues and they don't restore estrogen.

yummyeclair Thu 09-Nov-17 20:13:28

Pollyperky and Thevanguardsix that's very helpful information. Just wondered if anyone has used just oestrogen patches or is it better to try HER straight away ?

Christinayangstwistedsista Thu 09-Nov-17 20:17:03

The tiredness is a nightmare

Flicketyflack Thu 09-Nov-17 20:25:16

I’m 45 & started having symptoms- fuzzy head, word finding difficulties, occasional light bleeds out of synch with periods, mood swings.

I have found swimming helps & I have started taking viridian 40+ supplement.

I agree its all happening at once just when the children were becoming more straightforward confused

Interested to hear other suggestions 😊

Christinayangstwistedsista Thu 09-Nov-17 20:28:36

Lie down in the dark with a bottle of Gin?

Hissy Thu 09-Nov-17 23:14:56

Word finding difficulties? That’s a menopause ‘thing’? That’s quite a relief, I was worried it was an losing my marbles!

I’m getting waves of heat, tired all the time, don’t sleep too well and worrying that my libido is on the wane.

Will HRT sort all of that out? Are there any downsides to hrt?

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