I asked time and time again for testosterone for sexual problems and was just a) ignored b) told it isn't available in the UK c) discuss it another time as GP was too bussy to discuss this in one session. I might still be married now if this had been sorted out.
You're absolutely right Polly. As someone who had a surgical menopause at 36, it's really important to know what the guidelines are. I'd also add that asking for a referral to a specialist menopause clinic is a good move - especially if you're non-typical.
Testosterone is available on the NHS. See the NICE guidelines! I am sure that somewhere it says 'consider testosterone in women with low libiodo'.
It's not licensed for women as such but they can give the 'male' type but advise women to use a small amount. There are many women on the Menopause Matters forum posting on this and some have got it from NHS GPs.