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Menopause anxiety

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PrudenceDear Tue 18-Apr-17 14:06:21

I now consider myself to be post menopause as I've not had a period for 13 months and previous to that have gone 11 months for between for 3 years. Currently not taking anything as symptoms been ok. Well I say ok, at the point that I really struggled I had no idea I was peri. Symptoms started about 7 years ago. I'm now 44. Am I right in thinking that I should be taking something? I'm quite happpy with not having periods and the hrt that was previously recommended would have caused me to go back to regular cycles.
Anyway, just lately I've been really struggling with anxiety. It's awful today, it has been worse though. My jaw is clenched, my back is tense and painful. I find it difficult to cope with my children (3 junior school aged). Everything is a struggle. My head is telling me to relax but I just can't seem to. There's nothing that I'm feeling stressed or anxious about.

Joto369 Tue 18-Apr-17 15:30:11

Hi Prudence. I'm in peri but my anxiety levels are ridiculous. Hopefully someone will be along soon to advise but I empathise with how you feel xx

PollyPerky Tue 18-Apr-17 17:17:36

You should be on HRT up to the age of the average menopause at least (52) to protect your heart and bones. Having irregular periods with those long gaps and now a definite early menopause puts you at greater risk of heart disease and osteoporosis. Have a google about risks of an early menopause.
You can use conti HRT which won't give you a period.

PrudenceDear Tue 18-Apr-17 20:58:45

Ok thanks Polly. I will go back to the doctors and ask for the conti hrt. I was given a 3 month trial of elleste duet which I took for month but couldn't remember and couldn't find where I'd put the other packs so didn't take any more. The periods I have had over the past 4 years have been every 10-11 months and were firstly very heavy but my last couple have been barely anything. I really don't want to go back to having a regular cycle as suffer terribly with thrush whatever sanitary protection I seem to use.

The anxiety is something fairly new. Three or 4 flare ups in the past 6 months or so. Usually starts when I'm feeling stressed over something. No idea what's brought it on this time though. This is the worst of it all as I struggle to stop myself turning into a monster. Makes me feel like I'm losing my mind.

tasmaniandevilchaser Tue 18-Apr-17 21:08:40

Hi I'm in a similar position. The GP advised CBT for the anxiety which China has definitely helped. She also recommended evening primrose oil and vit B6. I've been also been avoiding alcohol. When I drink I get very anxious a day or 2 later.

tasmaniandevilchaser Tue 18-Apr-17 21:09:16

Not sure why I wrote China in there!! I'll blame auto correct!! grin

PrudenceDear Tue 18-Apr-17 22:44:57

Thank you. I'll definitely book a gp appointment. I very rarely drink, this latest anxiety started yesterday. I've got some evening primrose oil, I'll maybe restart taking that.

WhatsGoingOnEh Tue 18-Apr-17 22:58:28

I'm peri, and I've been suffering from amazing, pointless rage! Like real red-mists, directed at everyone/anything.

I'm currently on a cocktail of vitamins to try to manage it: Agnus Castus, evening primrose oil, starflower oil, St John's Wort, B Complex, and chocolate. smile Apparently it takes 3 months to start seeing full results, but so far so good. smile

PollyPerky Wed 19-Apr-17 08:03:53

It's important to differentiate between peri meno -and there are loads of lifestyle changes, diet, supplements that can help - which can happen in the 40s and continue for many years - and an early menopause (as with OP) when periods stop / are very irregular before 45.

Early menopause (before 45) is recognised as a medical condition where supplementation with HRT is strongly advised- even if women have no symptoms- to prevent bone loss and heart disease in their 50s and beyond.

PrudenceDear Wed 19-Apr-17 08:15:07

It's just a shame that in my case it's been so very difficult to be taken seriously. I've seen 5 or 6 different doctors, including 3 female, and only 2 have agreed with what I'm saying. The male one agreed but recommended I speak to a female doctor. Interestingly, it was the most newly qualified who listened and who was prepared to start me on hrt. One previously had told me to wait until I'd not had a period for 2 years and to then go back despite the fact that I was only 41.

PollyPerky Wed 19-Apr-17 08:36:02

it's nothing short of a disgrace that many GPs are so poorly educated on menopause and early menopause. Osteoporosis affects 1:2 - 1:3 women over 50. It's a serious disease that can result in disability and early death through complications. Not supplementing oestrogen is adding to the risk.

Have you heard of the Daisy Network? Online- charity which supports women with early meno- run by doctors. There is info on their site. Worth looking.

tasmaniandevilchaser Wed 19-Apr-17 20:24:05

PollyPerky, I'm 43 and my last period was early December, so almost 5 months ago. My periods have been very irregular over the last 4 years, anywhere from 19-90 days. My Mum had an early menopause. My GP has said to come back when I haven't had a period for a year and to drink a pint of milk a day. Is this the right advice? Should I be thinking about HRT?

Dorje Wed 19-Apr-17 20:29:59

Prudence, as I'm sure you know, anxiety is a symptom of low oestrogen.
IMO you need hrt as you're only 44.

Go back to your GP and explain the Conti tablets didn't suit and see about getting a coil and some oestrogen.

Your bones and heart will thank you and your anxiety levels will reduce.

EPO is like applying a bandage to an open flesh wound. May feel like you're doing something, but it's ineffectual.

Have a look at menopausematters website, and armed with more info maybe back to your GP?

Dorje Wed 19-Apr-17 20:31:13

Tasmanian, I'd look up that manopausematters website. I think that GP's advice is crap.
You need hrt, not a pint of milk.

tasmaniandevilchaser Wed 19-Apr-17 20:44:00

Thanks Dorje I will do that

PrudenceDear Wed 19-Apr-17 21:09:41

Thanks Dorje, I'll try to book an appointment as soon as I can.

Dorje Fri 21-Apr-17 14:27:46

You're welcome.
I went on hrt about six months ago, and couldn't believe the difference to my life it made.

Looking back now I see I had wound myself up tightly about it, trying to decide: not going on it, going on it, that kind of palaver, and once I went on it, I realised that the anxiety about hrt amongst everything else, was a symptom of oestrogen loss.

I actually feel a bit embarrassed about how anxious I was about it. Sometimes it's difficult to think clearly until you're out of the no sleep, anxious rut. Hrt helped me to get out of that rut, and a drop in anxiety and better quality sleep without the night sweats and hot flashes were a huge part in my being almost! normal now.

Please don't think I "know it all" though. Hrt made a huge improvement in my quality of life at 47, and I'm happy to tell others about it.
But of course, your own circumstances may be very different to mine, so best to do your own research and have your own GP or consultant help you come up with something which suits you perfectly.

I found dr John studds website very informative. He's head of the British society of gynaecologists.

PrudenceDear Sat 22-Apr-17 23:02:41

Thanks Dorje
If I'm honest, I've not felt like me for a long time so I think I may well benefit. The hot flushes come and go. I'm always tired and tire easily. The muscle pains and stiffness are awful, I feel like I'm in my 80s not 40s. I don't know if these are connected but I definitely need to sort myself out. My hips are painful and deteriorating, I've had an MRI which confirmed this.
I'm over weight, not hugely, but it's increasingly difficult to fit in any of my clothes.

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