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Menopause

RAGE!!!! No hot flushes or anything, but raging like a banshee. Is this it?

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merce · 27/08/2014 18:21

Self-explanatory, really. I am 46 and wondering if I am peri-menopausal (joy. not). Have been really low over the summer, but that has now developed into an uncontrollable rage. Am flying off the handle at kids/strangers who piss me off in shops/you name it. Had assumed I'd get hot flushes when it started, but none of that so far. Either I am peri-menopausal or I need carting off to some asylum. Anyone have any words of wisdom? Would love some hand-holding. Seeing doc next week so will ask about it then. TIA.

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hairypaws · 27/08/2014 18:26

Mine started like this. Rages for a couple of years coupled with depression(about 4 years ago), hot flushes started about 18 months ago all still with regular periods. A year past in May I started hrt and the difference was amazing (gp did my bloods), I'm 44 btw.

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merce · 27/08/2014 18:28

That is really interesting. Thanks so much for posting. Does sound like that must be it - and in a way I hope it is. Have planned on def. going down the HRT route when the time comes.

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PPaka · 27/08/2014 18:29

Yes
Raging now actually

Feels like uncontrollable pmt
But it's most of the month

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PPaka · 27/08/2014 18:32

I need to go back to gp. Last bloods didn't show anything but had a couple of irregular periods since then.
I was taking vit b6 and magnesium, which helped a bit, but ran out and feel like I'm back to square 1.

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hairypaws · 27/08/2014 18:32

My gp advised I would be on hrt until at least 50 as I'm young (ha ha that's the only time a gp will say that) and they recommend hrt for under 50 to safeguard against heart disease, certain cancers etc.

I had to increase my dose as I was struggling again and that has really helped stabilise my mood and energy levels thankfully.

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INeedSomeHelp · 27/08/2014 18:45

I am 44 and have experienced the rage too. Went to doc but she couldn't test my hormone levels as I was on the pill. Have come off it now but need to wait 3 months before bloods can be done. Rage seems to have subsided so actually wondering if it was the pill that was causing it!

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merce · 27/08/2014 22:10

Thanks everyone. Finding the whole thing quite shocking. Not sure why given my age, but maybe I have been in a bit of denial about it all. My youngest is only 2 and a half and I suppose I just see myself as a 'young mum'. Reality hitting me on head like a hammer…

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FantaSea · 28/08/2014 23:14

I also have the RAGE for a few days at a time in no pattern at all, my cycle is all over the place - my rage is uncontrollable and I am furious all day and if I am awake at night, then I am furious all night too. I find I am also able to deal with poor customer service in shops/restaurants/on the phone far more efficiently than I ever could before my peri-menopausal hormones became so haywire. Sometimes I even shock myself.

Sorry I don't have any advice OP, but you are not alone.

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joannesohn · 29/08/2014 06:01

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MrsDavidBowie · 29/08/2014 06:31

I was evil.
Went to the drs saying I would kill someone.
Straight on hrt and within 3 days felt better.
4 years into hrt I am feeling it again. Maybe its just my personality now. Wink
I am in the middle of changing hrt and am having a 21 day bleed (so far) so am not in the best place.

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MrsPiglet45 · 29/08/2014 08:29

Sounds very familiar to me! I'm also 44 and about to start HRT.

Hairypaws, which form of HRT do you take?

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Chocolategirl7 · 03/09/2014 22:30

Oh god! I think this might be me too. I'm so angry that I'm bursting into tears all over the place because I don't really do anger and I just simply can't control it. I had to leave work today after an hour cos I couldn't stop crying.

My periods are regular but odd - heavy for 24 hours, then nothing for 24 hours then normal for about 5 days.
I'm also noticing I'm a bit smelly - I've had to upgrade my deodorant to something stronger (Mitchum) and still smell a bit sometimes. Not really sweaty or having hot flushes but still a bit whiffy!
And I look like I've aged about ten years ( quite suddenly) and my face feels like it's falling in on itself.

Do you think this sounds about right?

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banshee68 · 15/09/2014 15:52

omg...the rage!! have to take myself away from the rest of the family for their own safety!! This is horrible......dont know myself any more and my body seems to be spear heading a revolution against me.....awful, just awful x

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limon · 29/09/2014 07:31

Merce thank goodness I found this thread. I'm 46 with a 2.5 year old and I feel like I'm going through hell with rage, anxiety, tiredness and flushes. I'm off to the doctor later to beg for hrt.

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meglet · 01/10/2014 09:27

I think I've made some headway with very high doses of evening primrose oil. I get RAGE for about 4 days a month, sweatier and feeling like crap.

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banshee68 · 22/10/2014 09:19

yaaay, after several trips back n forth to the quacks......changing the time i take my hrt to before bed and adding in b12 vits......things seem to be settling down a bit.....no longer a raving loon x

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TheOldWiseOne · 22/10/2014 09:42

Yes rage is perfectly normal..I have just watched Linda Barker on GMTV - thought it was going to be useful but no - it was her talking about her personal trainer and her cooking...if she really had bad menopausal symptoms she would have punched him in the bollocks Grin

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ssd · 22/10/2014 09:48

thing is, I don't know if its rage or just tiredness due to a child who doesn't like sleep and a job a 20 yr old should be doing, but I'm just low and done in and fed up of the bloody cooking/washing treadmill

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voluptuagoodshag · 26/10/2014 20:08

I am so glad I read this thread. I thought I was truly going loopy with the rage. Going to make appt at doc ASAP. I have so many horrible symptoms and I'm only 45. I've got too much good living to do rather than endure this hell!

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