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pkhasan Thu 30-Jun-05 17:26:39

Are there any Pakistani mums here in Leicester, who'd like meetup to chat or socialise??? looking fwd to hearing from one!

giraffeski Thu 30-Jun-05 17:49:12

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pkhasan Thu 30-Jun-05 18:09:00

Thanks for your message, qiraffeski.
But do you mean like on some massenger or something? With live chat or just like this, here on mums net? I dont know how it really works.

To be frank I have just started here today and I am really interested in meeting pakistani women only who are here in Leicester otherwise there is no point, since I already know few outside Leicester! my friends here are all non asian and I miss knowing ASIAN women, ideally from pakistan like myself.
The main idea would be to eventually meetup with our kids and so on!

stitch Thu 30-Jun-05 18:21:24

i know what you mean, soounds racist doesnt it? but sometimes you just miss talking in your own language!
try writing in roman urdu, you might get a response!

pkhasan Thu 30-Jun-05 18:44:42

Hi Stitch
I dont knw why should it sound racist, its just like you said sometimes you also wanna be with ppl like your self, with the same background, culture, religion etc MORE IN COMMON STUFF!

Also its vital for our kids as they'd develope interest in their own culture along side other cultures that they will eventually be exposed to.

In my case a pakistani atmosphere would help my daughter develope her own identitiy in this country and value it like I do.
Do you agree?

QueenEagle Thu 30-Jun-05 18:47:36

I composed a reply ages ago to this but deleted it.

It was along the lines of this:

If I started a thread asking to meet only other white parents who spoke only English, I would quite rightly be shot down in flames. Why not just meet up with other mums who are in your area regardless of the nationality???

pkhasan Thu 30-Jun-05 19:00:50

I know what you mean Q E, but the truth is that I already have lovely African and english mates from here but when Eid or Diwali comes I'd like me and my daughter to have same asian friends to celebrate it with in the way we do, simply coz the others cant value it like us..also I dont celebrate chritmas so there IS a difference somewhere.
But thats never to say that I have a problem socialising with the others coz I do socialise with all my non asian friends!
I think someone who is living in this country in a multicultural environment you do have to be MORE sensitive towards having prefference as it could give a wrong message.
The more we think so much about it in this manor the more it seems that way! Its just about being openminded. I mean in general not addressed to you QE. Thanks for your message anyway.

giraffeski Thu 30-Jun-05 19:21:23

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HappyHuggy Thu 30-Jun-05 19:25:21


Im afriad i dont fit into your critera cause im niether indian or pakistani, but im friendly and occasionally funny and around if you want to chat.

Welcome to Mumsnet

love Huggy

pkhasan Thu 30-Jun-05 19:34:11

Thats so sweet qira
where are you from? tell me a bit about yoursself if you dont mind! I am british born Pakistani (brought up here and there kind a thing) and have 2.5 daughter. Live in Leicester, been married 4 yrs and originally from London,.... about you?

pkhasan Thu 30-Jun-05 19:35:31

Hi Happay Huggy
Thanks for your message...I'm already enjoying this site already..but it can get addictive! So where are you from?

giraffeski Thu 30-Jun-05 19:38:24

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HappyHuggy Thu 30-Jun-05 19:46:17

Hi again,

Im in Birmingham, married with 2 ds's.

and you're right - mumsnet is addictive!!!

lailag Thu 30-Jun-05 19:50:27

not Pakistani but have dd and ds who I am desperate to learn Urdu (now RL people will definitely recognise me because I'm always going on about it....)

QueenEagle Thu 30-Jun-05 19:51:15

You are absolutely right pkhasan, it is nice to socialise with others who share your own cultural identity. I was just making a point albeit a little clumsily. My brain often knows what it wants to say but it loses something by the time the message gets to my fingertips!

Anyway, welcome to mumsnet and believe me it is totally addictive! I was drawn to your thread originally as I come from Leicester myself. Whereabouts in Leicester are you?

pkhasan Thu 30-Jun-05 20:04:47

Hi Laila
That strange your not pakistani but you want your kids to learn Urdu? why I mean why Urdu?

pkhasan Thu 30-Jun-05 20:06:44

Hey QE
That orite I guess that happens to all of us..i'm from Leicester in Oadby, been here less then a year..not liking it too much frankly...dont knw why...i guess just the new place feeling!

lailag Thu 30-Jun-05 20:11:00

dh is Pakistani and never gets around to talk in Urdu tohim. No problems when his friends or family are around even though he knows I don't understand (much) Urdu...

pkhasan Thu 30-Jun-05 20:12:16

This is amazing/weird within less than an hour I have heard from so many mums but none from Leicester and none pakistani, but Its still great to hear from you all.
To be honest I dont want to be addictive on here, thats why I was keen on giving my email and quickly overcoming the initial basics...and hopefully getting to meet some mums....I dont wanna sit here all day its already been 2 hours....disgraceful actually

lailag Thu 30-Jun-05 20:14:04

we are from Leicester but on the opposite site...
anyway, time to take them to bed...

pkhasan Thu 30-Jun-05 20:16:22

QE my sister inlaw is english and she has been in the family for over 9 years, she cant spk a word but understands everything EVERYTHING....I mean I could talk to her in Urdu and she would reply back in english. her kids talk funny urdu which I think you knw the type that is...but we encourage otherwise they will always avoid....but Goodluck if you were here in Leicester I could have helped you!

QueenEagle Thu 30-Jun-05 22:06:19

pkhasan I used to live off the Groby Road, don't know if you know it at all? We drove by Oadby/Wigston when we visited my Gran a while back. I love Leicester (some might say I'm mad) and I'd move back there like a shot if it weren't for my dad being in Bedford.

What aren't you liking about the place then?

pkhasan Thu 30-Jun-05 22:52:37

TO be honest QE I havent been here long enough to decide if i like it or not...i just find it so hard to get to meet ppl! PPL who I click with, and also I guess I compare it with London, which is wild and I like wild! ;)

pkhasan Fri 01-Jul-05 01:26:27


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