Any single mums/mums to be in STAFFORDSHIRE???

[mybumpsaboy]

c'mon guys - pleeeeease there must be some of you out there?

xx

[mybumpsaboy]

i'm right in stafford...

& would be very happy to hear from loved-up mums too, but so far all the ones I've met have had a bit of a hard time identifying with the rubbish I'm going through at the mo with the ex....don't want to burden anyone, so thought it'd be nice to meet people in a similar position to myself, that's all! x

[whispywhisp]

Just thought I ought to mention that not all married Mums are loved up - I'm married and therefore not a single Mum but I'm certainly not loved up! There are those married Mums who are happy and those that aren't. I'm bordering on the latter so perhaps we ought to have a category for people like me!

[whispywhisp]

Hiya masala...no, I'm ok, ta. Just the usual crap! Married life ain't all a bed of roses! xx

[mybumpsaboy]

hallo guys...

hope no offence taken, it's just very hard to find people to be friends! the forums are great but ideally looking for people in stafford area who actually want to meet up etc to get out & about.

I can imagine married life can be pretty krappy too...why do you stay in the relationship if you hate it? I HOPE I'll never do that again but of course that's so easy to say in theory, huh?

My ex is dragging me to court before my baby's eve born...he asked me to have a family, but was sleeping with one of his teenage pupils before we even got together & later found out he continued to do so all through my pregnancy, & is now with her after many promises that he'd leave me anyway once the baby was older: once I found those texts & he confessed, I left myself. Since then I've had nothing but threats of solicitors and that he's going for 50/50 residency mainly because he doesnt want to pay me maintenance...so feels somewhat like I just got used to have a family because his biological clock was ticking & the girl he ACTUALLY wanted was too young to give him a child. Great.

So yeah..could do with some friends - I lived and worked at the place where he is boss, so lost all my mates there, plus he was v controlling & used to stop me seeing friends and family...im stuck in this area until all the court stuff etc is sorted, with no friends or family anywhere around!

[whispywhisp]

Hi mybump...firstly I'll be your friend!!! You will never be lonely on MN. There are loads of lovely Mums whether they be single, married, divorced, widowed etc etc plus a few Dads, Grandads etc etc!

Secondly...I'm not in a relationship that I hate. I do actually love my husband, very much. BUT!...married life aint much fun at the moment and its not down to him - its down to me. I have to wake up to the fact that I suffer with depression and I need to go out there and get some help. It all began when I lost my Dad almost 3yrs ago to a drunk driver. I've never got over the huge shock of losing someone so very close to my heart. As a result I have lived from one day to the next and have found it increasingly hard to cope. We are a married couple yet we don't get on all the time. DH is a lovely caring guy but I have this awful habit of pushing him away. One day I'm ok, the next I'm not. I have two beautiful daughters, whom I love with all my heart, and whilst I agree its not healthy to stay in a relationship for the sake of the kids - I choose to do this because I know its me that has the problem, not US.

Anyways....that's me.

You have got a bloody awful situation haven't you bump? Seeing what you're going thru makes my life seem so simple and straight forward yet we all have our own problems, one way or another.

Masala is a lovely kind caring lady. I'm sure she'll post later on. That's two friends you've gained atleast on this thread! xxxx

[mybumpsaboy]

aww that's sad about your dad yeah I know having a partner isn;t the automatic answer to not feeling lonely & isolated when you've got issues within yourself...

thank you so much for your reply

x

[whispywhisp]

Yea it is sad but life goes on, I guess!

Anyway I really do hope you get to find some friends up in Stafford. Unfortunately I live at the other end of the country otherwise I'd be there for you...but y'know there's loads of us on MN who will always be friends....no matter where we are. Good luck. xxxxxx

[merryandmad]

Hello ,
I'm in Stafford too.
Live with dp, and two dd's 4 and 2. can i join?