Is it student time already? It was in Newcastle today, but I thought Durham students came back later.
How's it going, Leggy?
I have been in John Lewis in Newcastle a couple of times recently, because DD1 likes playing in the toy area, the nappy change/parent toilet is convenient, and the espresso bar is a good feeding space IMO. Anyway I had a surreal experience in JL once when feeding DD1 in the breastfeeding room when a man sitting in there spooning puree into his toddler's mouth voiced an objection to me being in there breastfeeding. The other day I was in the nappy change area, which is connected to the breastfeeding room by a curtain. I was changing DD2's nappy. The curtain was closed and there were voices behind it. DD2 started making the sucky noises that mean 'Milk soon please?' so I said to her 'you can have your milk once you've got a nice clean nappy' (I know she doesnt understand but I say these things anyway). At this point the curtain to the feeding area was opened and a woman appeared saying 'you can't come in here yet, my daughter is feeding her baby' so I said 'it's okay, I'm going to feed her in the espresso bar' and she looked absolutely horrified and then said 'oh you're bottle-feeding' and I said no, breastfeeding, and she still looked shocked but retreated behind the curtain. Then another mum, friend and pram entered the nappy change area and headed for the curtained area, opening the curtain, whereupon the woman said anxiously 'you can't come in here, my daughter's feeding her baby' again. The mum said to her friend 'where can we go? shall I go into the toilet? I could feed him on the toilet' and was all panicked. I was poised to suggest the espresso bar but thought it would be cheeky. I don't know where they decided because I left at this point, DD2 having begun to increase her volume, and headed for the espresso bar, ordered hot choc and cake, sat down, they brought my order over and I started to feed. Saw two sets of bottle-feeding mums and babes in there looking very relaxed. Thought - what is this culture where women are so worried about feeding in public that they even don't want other breastfeeding mothers to see them feeding. And how hard it is to continue to feed if you need to hide. I guessed the baby behind the curtain must have been very young (cos that's usually when feeding in public is most intimidating) but in fact she wasn't, because I bumped into them again and baby looked around 4-5 months. That mother had done brilliantly to feed that long while being so intimidated by being seen.
Sorry for long post. I'm not criticizing anyone here. I'm just musing on how breastfeeding in public, in this area, still seems to be seen as odd, even though actually I have never had anyone say anything or even look oddly at me. I suppose it's all about perception. But the hiding away does make it harder, and less convenient (though maybe is cheaper and less calorific!).