feel like bridget jones without the distraction of daniel cleaver and whats his name

[singlegirl]

today my theme tune would be all by myself. i would be drinking wine and waving arms about like a mad thing while i sing loudly and hearfelt at an imaginary britains got no talent audience.

this is nothing more than an i feel sorry for myself post.

im, just sick of being single. sick on being on my own with noone who loves me, or flirts with me, or has sex with me, or can bring me milk and chocolate on the way home, or snuggle up to, or even make me a drink.
im pretty sick of having fun and doing things all on my own and everyone thinking im fablous expect im still single.

ive tried internet dating, which is just dire. i go out. i flirt. ive tried being demure and waiting for blokes to make the first move. ive tried making the first move.

just nothing. i had a date for this afternoon that cancelled last min and actually i dont really care as i wasnt excited about meeting him.

For those that might berate me and say dont be so desperate, enjoy your life. be happy and work on yourself. well. i have done all that. i have a better social life than most people. i do things. i get out and about. im attractive, im not shy. i just dont come across men, or anything that i like.

im only young ( ish) and i do not want to be esingle forever. ive been single for 18 months now and it seems like an age.

am between laughing at my patheticness and crying really.

also posted here as the girls on here might understand and be able to pep me up a bit.

[chubbasmum]

sorry hun cant do that i feel the same my self not pathetic at all we will find our Mr Rights one day keep up with the internet dating the good apple is at the bottom of the basket

[Dominique07]

Aww how horrible. I am newly single but feel a horrible ache about the prospect of being in the house/bed alone spending the weekends/evenings alone.

However! The summer is coming... do you have children? Are you planning some fun holidays?
Do you work? Do you go out for drinks on a Friday evening?
..? Sorry, I need a pep talk myself but maybe if you tell us a bit more we can come up with some ideas.

[HanBanan]

What worries me is that when/if someone finally takes an interest in me will they turn out to be another nobber? From my last experience I don't trust myself...

I'm hoping to find someone who is a friend of a friend/colleague of a friend so that they have a decent idea of what they're like.

Oh if only life were that simple!!!!

[Elfie17]

You're SO not alone sweetie.

As my kids get older, I seem to be spending more and more time at home on my own, just the dog for company and feeling like love is a million miles away. I tried internet dating for a while but the few men that I met up with seemed a little bit too keen which made me think that they were more desperate than 'in love' and so I've given up on that for a while.

I am a confident, caring, creative person.. happy in my own skin... not short of people who tell me how gorgeous they think I am... but absolutley crap at getting dates with anyone I like. I'm currently lusting after a gorgeous guy who doesn't seem to realise that I like him more than a friend. He's been a friend for some years, a single dad who's DD is good friends with mine and lately has taken me out for a few really lovely days out, with girls in tow.... he even invited me out for an evening which I thought could have been a potential date? But he's either
a)Not that in to me
b) Very cautious?
c) Just wanting to be friends or
d) I must be failing to send out the right signals!

Had another invite to a bbq at his place last night and was really looking forward to it and hoping something might develop but........... apart from a peck on the cheek as I left.... big fat nothing.

So here I am, bank holiday Monday, feeling that Bridget Jones moment again but knowing it's a god 8 hours early to be opening the wine and waving my arms about forlornly.
What I'd like to know is what can a girl say to find out if it's more than friendship that he wants without making a complete idiot of oneself?

All advice needed PLEASE! And think of me and a thousand others when you're feeling low and remember that Daniel Cleaver is probably out there... just need to work out how to let him know that you're ready for him!

[NicknameTaken]

Daniel Cleaver was a knob too, though, wasn't he?

No advice but sympathy. It's coming up to a year since I left my ex. No sex for a year! I'm 36 and suppose I never have sex again!

[zookeeper]

I fell exactly the same. I've been separated three years, had a couple of relationships that haven't worked out, am confident, reasonably happy have good friends, go out quite a lot considering I have three dcs but this last month lonliness has hit me hard. I would love to have someone special in my life. I've tried internet dating - had about 15 dates and have met some nice men but noone I would want to see again. I feel quite despairing and very alone today

[Elfie17]

Was Daniel Cleaver the arse? Well see, that's where I keep going wrong... I was meaning to wait for what's his name... the other one!

[chubbasmum]

oohh Mr D`arcy i thought i had found mine but it just turns out he just want to be friends i really liked him so my laptop keeps me company at night i hate being lonely none of my married friends ever introduce me to their single friends one admitted that she couldnt because she fancied him too so its a matter of keep trying internet dating mind you it doesnt really help the fact that im too fussy