I may have to write and run but will check back later. I really need some advice please.
I live alone with DD and Ds (2). DS's father finished the relationship with me yesterday. He did not live with us but stayed over several times a week.
I realise that I am far better off without him as he is a total arse and can be sly and manipulative. For this reason I need to be very careful about how I proceed in terms of access.
Now, I have never stopped xDP seeing DS, in fact I have encouraged him to spend more time with him.
I attend therapy twice a week atm and the arrangement is that exDP will continue to look after DS while we wait for the application to go through re a nursery place. The centre where I have my therapy even had us in for a joint meeting last week as in the past exDP has refused to look after his son as it is only for my "convenience"
Anyways, exDP has said he will have DS (but not DD) tomorrow morning but only if I bring DS to him although he has said he'd meet me at the train station closest to him. Originally exDP was going to come here and mind both DCs. However, this will mean we have to leave the flat at about 7am in order for me to get back for therapy at 9.
Would it be seen as obstructing his access if I insisted on him collecting his son? I don't want to be unreasonable but I also don't want DD (not his DD) to have to interact with exDP as he has let her down very badly and I don't want to drag her across London and back unnecessarily. This is assuming I can find other childcare for DD as he has decided he won't be looking after her tomorrow as planned.
I know he's being an arse but what can I do?
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GhostInTheBackOfYourHead · 14/04/2010 12:33
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