I could really do with some advice here ... hope someone can help! I'll try and be brief!!
I left my kids' father four years ago, the relationship was abusive and controlling. We now live about ten minutes drive from him, he sees the kids every Saturday and they stay over every other week. I drop them off with him and collect them, he has only brought them back to me on a handful of occasions. We manage to get on reasonably well now, almost friendly, for the children's sake.
I met a wonderful man two years ago, we are engaged and we are moving to his house in three weeks time. He lives about sixty miles away.
Once we move the children will probably only see their dad every weekend, for the whole weekend. It takes 1.25 hours to get to/from our new house so I suggested to my ex that we meet at a cafe which is about halfway between us - in fact, it's closer to him, about 30 mins drive. It made more sense to me that we each had an hour-ish round trip to drop off/collect the kids rather than me have two 2.5 hour round trips to do all the running around.
He has said today that he doesn't think he'll be able to see the kids anymore because he won't be able to afford the petrol and that as I am the one moving away, he thinks I am responsible for doing all the driving. I've said that it will only cost about £10 in petrol - equal to two packets of cigarettes blah blah, and it's just a question of priorities (he smokes quite heavily, also smokes a lot of weed and buys loads of PS2 games but contributes nothing for the kids) but apparently that's just me seeing things in black and white and the world isn't really that easy to work out - and now I have to go round to have a "chat" ...
Am I being unreasonable? Should I be the one who drives them all the way there and back? Am I expecting too much to want him to meet us halfway? Please advise!!!
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sapphire · 18/07/2005 21:11
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