My husband and I have been seperated for 4 years and we both live with our new partners.Our 10 year old daughter lives with me. My 85 year old mother also lives with me and needs care. My husband lives the other side of London, about 90 minutes away by public transport.
We have never had a formal seperation or custody agreement, but I have always encouraged contact and she often stays with him at weekends.Unfortunately, though, he makes lots of excuses to have her for just one night over the weekend, as he says he needs a social life. Recently he took her on holiday which he seems to think gets him "off the hook" for a few weekends. he says travelling to where we live takes up too much time, and many other excuses (he needs to work overtime etc). I am very sad that he wants to curtail the time he spends with her, not only becuase she loves him and wants to be with him, but, selfishly, becuase I too would like some kind of a social life. I also believe she finds it confusing to be sent home a day early.
When it bring it up(nearly always on email) it descends into a slanging match. It seems bizarre to be looking for ways to make him spend more time with her, but that is the situation. Is there a precedent? Any advice welcome.
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amaixjs · 02/03/2010 17:14
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