My ex and I have been separated for about a year. We still live quite close and I am aware that life as a single parent who also works part time is difficult.
So I still go round and help out - giving her time to go out for exercise classes or shopping as need be in the evening. I help with some of the house jobs as well. Not because I am trying to be a hero or anything like that but I am just trying to help her out.
Somehow she seems to be always busy and have lots of jobs to do. Once my little boy (aged 4) has gone to bed, she seems to be constantly finding things to do and not going to bed till midnight.
This gets her really stressed and tired and I seem to get the brunt of it. Right now she getting stressed about Xmas. I have offered to help her with shopping and in coming round to give her some time to go and do what she needs.
However she will only go after my little boy has gone to bed. She won't go during the day even with my son nor will she even be flexible with me looking after him while she gets what she needs.
What worries me is she seems to insist on doing all the jobs in the evening and goes out to do fun things on her days off. It's like all the boring house stuff waits till he's gone to bed.
I can't bring this up with her - everytime I try to bring it up , I just get yelled at and made to feel guilty because it's my fault she's so busy. It is just so tempting to say s*d it, I will only come round and pick him up and you can forget any support in the house that I have been giving.
You are probably going to tell me that being a single parent is really busy, but I bet some of you manage to relax at least part of the evening. She works 2 1/2 days by the way. I just want her to be a little less stressed for her sake.
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robd · 23/12/2009 16:50
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