Hi
Need some opinions everyone please.
Separated from husband a year ago - he walked out, no reasons although I suspect there was someone else. Anyway - loooonng history of him with depression, substance abuse, alcoholism, DV to me. I always did the parenting 100%. Kids 7 and 9 yrs old. After he left I offered supervised contact only because kids weren't happy with anything else and his behaviour was eratic to say the least. He refused this - wanted it on his terms or nothing.
Then kids revealed he had been violent with them & exposed them to porn on reg basis. After death threats, stalking & kids witnessing DV incident with him assaulting me, we fled our hometown.
Eventually he submitted court application for contact and we are in middle of this. I have involved police who spoke to children but couldn't get enough from them to be able to press charges. Social services involved to help us - they are completely happy with how I care for them etc.
Fact finding hearing pending but we have just had a pre hearing where judge basically said I was blocking contact, not upholding his rights and unless I can prove father is lying then no reason he shouldn't have contact etc. Cafcass not scheduled to be involved til AFTER fact finding. Kids do not want to see him at all and I have been working with social worker to overcome alot of issues with them emotionally. Now they are doing really well.
My worries are these: with a judge with such an attitude, I am worried that he will dismiss the welfare allegations, even though most are admitted to by ex, will not then get a welfare report ordered by cafcass and will just award contact. Social services are submitting a report which should help. What if the judge takes the kids from me because he thinks I am just blocking contact?? I just want them to be safe and happy - and not put back to square 1 emotionally.
What can I do to ensure the children's needs, wishes and feelings are represented fairly so a fair decision can be reached with their welfare as a priority - no the fathers rights above them
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arwen123 · 29/11/2009 16:14
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