I am single parent, ex sees DD and currently I live in London. I live in a shitty part of town in a two bed flat with no garden and no hope of getting DD into a halfway decent school without paying private fees.
I have been offered a job in the country (vaguely nr brother) but it is a significant pay cut.
I need to know if I should take it..
Quality of life for DD increases soo much
Can afford a garden
Moving away from gran who looks after DD two days a week
Moving away from my sister
I also cannot sell my flat - i have been trying for a year and would have logistical problems if I moved.
I cannot decide and am feeling sick with pressure...what would you do? I have until tomorrow to make a decision.
dillydally - lots of questions to ask yourself
1. How good is country job?
2. Can you really not sell your flat?
3. Who will look after dd when you move to country?
4. Have you checked out the schools in the area where you would be moving to?
5. If you really genuinely can't sell your flat - what on earth will you do with it if you move to the country?
6. How much will you miss the support of your sister and dd's granny?
Country job is OK - but have never really had job staosfaction and have always worked for cash to the detriment of satisfaction (that is accountancy for you)
I could rent out flat, change to an interest only mortgage and the mortgage payments would be fully covered by rent, hence I could hopefully afford a new mortgage on a new place
DD would be nursery 5 days a week - she is currently in 3 days and with her gran 2 days which helps financially
Schools in the new area are fab
I will miss my mum and my sister lots but only see my sister every fortnight or so at present - but she is an excellent safety net for me and dd
go for it. rent the flat -london rents are high enough that you should at least cover expenses on it - also means you have added financial security. Your son deserves fresah air a safe environment and a strong education. Its scary and hard and may be lonely whils tyou get yourself established but it is worth it!!
I think I am going to say no.
Pay cut is 20,000 less than now and I would have the added expense of full time nursery care (and I cant even find one in the town - though my search has been brief) and a car - which i dont have at the minute.
Therefore my disposable income would be very low indeed and add that to the initial isolation and culture shock and I am not sure i could cope...if I hated it, I would have lost my salary here...perhaps I need to save lots first...I still have two / three years before DD needs to start school.
It means I would be financially dependent on the ex, whose understanding of how much a child costs in a little Frank Zappa esque for my liking.
I shall continue to search for a more rural lifestyle though perhaps I need suburbs...I shall ahve to shred my NIN t shirt for saying that
I might have been with it ten years ago...a good friend asked me if I wanted to go and see them on tour in july - he said we could hang out at the back with the other oldies and we could "keep it real"
nowadays I am more likely to go and see the tweenies..