because i am stumped.
Im so angry i just hate him so much.
For those that don't know. X was violant and abusive in every way. I contested access due to this. my barrister and solicitor both said (at different times) that my case was one of the most severe they had ever worked on.
He would beat the shit out of me daily, would make my son watch whilst he raped me, punched me in teh stomach to induce a miscarriage....the list could go on for days.
Contact has been happening and increasing in frequancy and duration for the past 2-3 years. from 3 supervised hours to now being fortnightly staying weekends friday-sunday.
however he keeps cancelling. he cancelled thsi last visit because it coincides with his latest girlfriends birthday and he wanted to take her out.
other excuses have been that he was playing rugby, that he had no money ( i actually offered to lend him money so that the children wouldn't be let down)
just before the court case was ended he requested that he get the children for extra days over school holidays.
So today i text him to ask if he wanted to collect the children on the thursday of half term instead of the friday. ( he doesn't work) he has just replied with "no i will get them friday"
He did everything by the book whilst we were at court. made out like he was the worlds greatest dad, that nothing mattered but the dc's.
I have said all the way through that he was not interested in them, just in getting to me.
everyone told me i was projecting and that i had to put his relationship with the kids first. that it didn't matter about our history, just how he was with the kids.
Im so angry that i've been proven right.
I have never and will never slag him off to the kids and they have never heard me say anything negative about him, but sooner or later they are going to realise what he's like and that breaks my heart.
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can someone explain to me why he would spend 4 years taking me to court to gain access just so that he can refuse to see them?
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Mamazonabroomstick · 10/10/2009 21:57
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