Ok an update from OJ for those that have been asking

[onlyjoking9329]

You know how the last three years have been so bloody difficult and over that time i have shared a lot on MN which in turn has meant that i have had a huge amount of support which frankly still blows me away. you have walked beside me throu the tears so i think it is only fair that you get to share the joy
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The kids continue to make me proud and amaze me in equal measures they have coped with the death of their lovely dad far better than i could have imagined.
i am doing really well, it has been almost 16 months now and i have adjusted to the new life i didn't want or choose and.............................
i feel very lucky for what we do have now.
some of you have asked on facebook what it is that is making me smile and the answer is.......... i have been seeing someone who is very special and he has made me feel very special too.
He says that he understands that i will always love Steve and he doesn't want that to ever change but hopes that i have enough love to share with him

[flier]

Thats lovely. I'm sure your kids will be so pleased to see you happy. All the best xx

[LadyGlencoraPalliser]

So happy things are going well for you OJ. Your strength and courage through your ordeal have been inspirational and you deserve every bit of happiness that comes your way.

[StrawberriesandCherries]

I often think of you as my dh had cancer similar time Steve did. That's so lovely to hear how you all are - and "Woo-hoo" and silly girlish giggles for the new chap!!

[squeaver]

Thanks OJ, that's lovely to know.

[Yorkiegirl]

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[stuffitllllama]

OJ I thought of you today for some weird reason. So glad the children are doing great and you are smiling. All best wishes. You deserve to have a lovely time.

[YouKnowNothingoftheCrunch]

Couldn't happen to a nicer person. It's so good to hear that your family are doing well.

Thank you for the update

[Bumblelion]

That is lovely to know. Although I know it is a different scenario and my mum is older, but she has been widowed for nearly 10 years now and I would love her to meet someone - a companion, friend, lover, whatever. As a daughter, I know it does not detract from anything that she and my dad shared but he is no longer here and she is and I don't want her to be on her own forever (although that may be what she wants).

So glad for you.

[NormaStanleyFletcher]

So glad you are finding some happiness.

So glad the kids are doing well.

It is no more than you all deserve

[snice]

I'm happy to know that you're happy

[starwhores]

I have followed your story (under many different names) and I just wanted to say I'm really happy for you.

[ginnny]

That's the best news I've heard all day.
Congratulations I hope you get alll the happiness you deserve.

[Monty100]

OJ - crying here too!

That is great news. I wish you and dcs (and new dp) all the happiness in the world.

[roomforthree]

How lovely.

[onlyjoking9329]

Thanks for all your lovely messages
yorkie thanks for your post i know we have walked the very same path so i apprieciate your thoughts, everyone has different viewpoints, my view is bound to be different to the outlaws next persons for i am sitting in a different spot.
it's interesting thou that the people who say its almost 16 months are you not over it yet are usually the very same people who frown and tell me that at almost 16 months it is far to soon for a relationship
i am moving on to a different phase of my life that doesn't mean i don't love steve or that i have discounted all the past it just means that i have to embrace the future, steve told me many ties that he didn't want me to be on my own after he died, he wanted me to live and he wanted me to love and be loved, i think he would be happy for me.

[morningpaper]

Thanks for posting - I'm so pleased that you are feeling positive

[onadietcokebreak]

So pleased for you OJ. Best wishes for the exciting times ahead x

[Northernlurker]

I am quite sure that so brave and loving a man as your Steve would be delighted for you that you have more love and joy in your life. You deserve it, the kids deserve it and by living your life to the utmost you are doing honour to Steve's memory and all the joy you shared.

[TwoManyFallsAndYouGetABadScore]

OJ, so pleased to hear your happy news. My best fried lost her DH nearly 2 years ago - I think you poste on a couple of my threads about it - and is also in a relationship with a lovely man. There have been friends of ours who have indicated they think its too soon but frankly, they are wrong.

She and you (and yorkiegirl and loads of others on here) know what it is like to loose the love of your life and be alone. Equally you know more than most that any chance at happiness has to be embraced.

I am really pleased you have something in your life to make you smile.

[liahgen]

OJ,

You don't "know" me but followed your threads and posted when your lovely Steve lost his brave fight.

Just wanted to wish you all the luck in the world, I'm sure Steve is looking down and smiling that his wonderful family are able to find some happiness. x

[moodlumthehoodlum]

OJ - so happy for you, so happy. I'm so pleased the DC are doing well, and to have someone new in your life who makes you happy is so deserved for you.

[FabBakerGirlIsSURVIVED]

That has put the first proper smile on my face today and also brought tears to my eyes as I am so happy for you.