Even though, he never contributed financially (and barely in any other way) towards the family when we were togther and certainly doesnt now we are living apart.
So, I feel very lucky to have got myself a new job. I was made redundant just before my second DS was born at Xmas...I wasnt actively looking but this just kind of landed in my lap.
The trouble is my XP does not think it is right to put a 9 month old baby in nursery and children should be at home with their mothers until they are 18 months at least.
That all sounds very little house on the prairie and stuff which is ironic as he was a very unsupportive, aggressive partner, spent all his money on puff and stella
When I mentioned to him that I would need to get a job soon, he told me to go on benefits instead. He said if I put our youngest in a nursery, he would "burn it down".
Not sure what his problem is as my new job is part time and very restricted hours and pretty well paid(as am quite specialised in what I do).
this means I can provide for our 2 lovely boys, pay the mortgage on our house and buy them healthy food, plus put them in a very nice nursery which I am very comfortable with...(the older one already attends and loves it)
He can be a lovely dad to the kids esp now he doesnt live here and has no resp and just drops in when suits him (assumin i ok this) - my 3 year old loves spending time with him - as he is like a giant toddler himself(tantrums included).
Not sure how / when to tell him. I find all the conflict with hime very stressful. Also no way to reason with him (e.g. showing him the nursery, explaining that 3 days a week there for a 9 months old could be a very strimulating, nuturing environment).
any advice how to handle this???
Many thanks
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Advice sought how to handle XP - I got a new job :) but he gonna throw a wobby :(
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northlondonmumma · 29/08/2009 22:05
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