This is just an idea... I'd love your views please! I'm struggling with being a single parent... missing adult company, my child is a bit isolated too... I'd love another responsible adult around with parenting skills, and another child. I've plenty of space in my house, normally I would just advertise for a lodger. .. .What do you think about this, could it work?? anyone done anything similar??? where on earth would one advertise for someone needing this kind of arrangement?
Sounds like a great idea. I'd do it. It's a bit lonely with just ds and me, I think it would be great. I'd need someone laid back like me though. Own space would be good, split bills, rules on babysitting etc.
Hmm. good points about ground rules and private space: And parenting styles, which is my big problem with 'D'xP At the moment . I've two spare rooms... one was used by our au pair who sadly left to go home...and I'm trying to decide whether to find another aupair, or look for a single parent, and find other after-school childcare. By the way, sorry not to introduce myself properly - I'm new on this board, I've only just found this part of the site. I really appreciate your views.
I really would, ds is 10 and it's not been easy, lonely at times, it would have been nice for him to have another child to share his life with. I wished I had thought of it several years ago. Good luck to you, I hope it works out.
Sounds like it could work if everything was thought through carefully and discussed first. My only concern would be that if it didn't work out and the other SP and DC had to move out it could be unsettling for both your dc to adjust to new people being there one minute and then gone the next..
Not meaning to put a negative slant on it - just something to consider..
It could work but you would have to be careful and set down (and both agree) to definate rules before hand.
If it went well it would be fantastic - but when these things go badly they go very badly indeed.
I've never lived with another parent and child before but have shared houses all my adult life with friends and other couples.
I have lived with 10+ other people and didn't have a huge falling out with 2 of them - one still lives with us.
You have to be careful and make sure you have your own space and things are set out clearly. Also that you are on the same wavelength.
You also need to be reasonably laid back and accomadating/flexible. Be the kind of person that is able to let things go.
I can't imagine just living with me, dp and ds and I wouldn't really want to. I enjoy living with others as well - there are lots of benefits. Company being the main one. Also the loan of a huge collection of DVDs
I would say it was worth a go as long as you went into it with your eyes wide open and knew what the downsides could be.