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am i being unreasonable??

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floatyjosmum Sun 09-Aug-09 17:29:44

just wanted someone elses opinion on this,

i have a ds who's 8 and a dd who is 4 with different dads. have an awful relationship with ds dad but great dd's. we sepertaed when she was 10 months and still do stuff togther - even holidaying this year.

He mentioned 3 weeks ago he was seeing someone and it had bene going on for a couple of weeks, he then worked away for 2 weeks and has been home for 1 so this relationship is 5 weeks in total.

dd has come home today to say she has met daddys "friend". turns out they were in town and bumped into her and then she went back to his with them.

huge arguement followed - ive no problem with her meeting someone but told him i didnt think 5 weeks was long enough especially when he admits himself that he is crap in relationships.
he basically turned it round and said i was being unreasonable etc and just didnt want anyone else round her.

this isnt the case, my oldest sees his dads girlfriend most weeks and they are planning on going on holiday together. i m just concerned that so soon after getting together he is introducing her!,

just want to say im with someone and it took 4 motnhs for him to meet either of them and even now another 4 moths later he doesnt stay over when they are here.

am i being unreasonable?

Kayugaduck Mon 10-Aug-09 01:16:39

Don't row in earshot of your dc it will wreck them more than you'll ever know.

FluffyBunnyGoneBad Mon 10-Aug-09 01:20:39

Nope, you are not being unreasonable. I agree with kay though, don't mention it. It's not your problem. Your child won't remember, the bigger picture here is that your child knows that you will always be there for them. Friends/lovers/people will come and go, a loving parent won't. Teach them this instead.

SOLOisMeredithGrey Mon 10-Aug-09 01:21:35

YANBU. I always feel the same about Dc's meeting new partners.

ridingjoker Mon 10-Aug-09 08:38:38


but it was unfortunate they met in passing, least he's been sensible and kept her as a "friend"

whats done is done. no point having massive arguement with him.

you say he's a good dad and you all get on well enough to go on hols..... let this one slide. you are very lucky to get on with ex amicably.

but if there becomes a regular pattern of new gf coming and going every few weeks then perhaps have a word.

floatyjosmum Mon 10-Aug-09 14:03:57

discovered later on last night that they hadnt met in passing and it had been arranged! told him i had loads of issues with it and weve agreed for another 2 months and even then def no sleeping over!

spoken today and things seem to be back to normal, really dont want to ruin the niceness between us. know he knew i wasnt happy cos it was dd that told me.

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