This is a rant. I would like to know what you think of this?
My soon to be exhb is quite frankly a wanker. He hasn't worked since April and for the past two months hasn't given me a penny towards the mortgage (house is on the market) or any other of his financial obligations including any maintenance for dd. Despite pleading poverty whilst he was working he still managed a trip to Prague (despite me being in hospital having major op at the time), xmas in the US, a weekend in Amsterdam,and a weekend in the Lakes two weeks ago. Not bad for someone who doesn't work.
Anyway, we have just signed the statement of arrangements explaining our plans regarding contact (and to be fair he has always seen dd on a regular basis). Last week he rang me and announced that a 'friend' had booked and paid for him to go on another weekend away somewhere in Europe and that he would not be having dd that weekend. I normally am free and able to adjust days when he has her but on this particular occasion I have arranged to go away for the weekend myself.
I told him that I was going to be away at that time and that bearing in mind my past flexibility I would expect him to change his arrangements since he should have consulted me prior to making plans.
He said he would come back to me. He didn't so when he dropped off dd this morning I asked him what was happening and he said his friend couldn't change the dates and couldn't get a refund. I said that that wasn't my problem and that he needed to understand that he has a responsibilty to ask first and not just assume I wll fall into line with his plans. I said 'so what you are saying is that you are going regardless of what I have said' to which he replied yes.
Don't get me wrong, if it comes down to it I will of course cancel my plans-my daughter is my priority but I'm just fucking furious at his attitude that he just thinks he can pick and choose when he wants to be a parent.
Surely after two years I am entitled to plan what I would like to do in my free time without him coming along and fucking everything up for me?
I'm so furious with him.
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dollparts · 30/07/2009 14:09
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30/07/2009 23:39
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