ex trying to get in on medical appts.
i dont wish him to attend because i dont want to be in same room as him - without an escort - or even with... seeing as he been abusive and violent towards me.
he does not at this point have parental repsonsibility so i dont have to invite him, right?
he can of course ask at court hearing to be informed i guess, and i am happy to pass on info or have copies of reports sent to him.
he has the right to know of course he does...before someone berates me for that...
i am the person with primary care responsibilities - i decide appts right?
(he called dentist to make an appt then emailed me to tell me of its time!!) bearing in mind i work full time so need to carefully plan time off for appts. he doesnt work...
i had voice msg from dentist saying - i am confused, childrens dad called and he gave different address to the one we have, what is going on...
we in hiatus re contact - as contact centre sessions went ok so it deemed ok to move out - but i agreed with cafcass that contact to be supervised by person we both agree to - there have been a few of these sessions, with carer i chose - (and dds said very clearly they would only see him with another adult present)
she says when she took ds to his flat he made him use headphones to watch tv "because i cant stand the noise of horrd henry" and then while he was entertained with tv, exP proceeded to speak to her for three hours to tell her "the truth about cestlavie and her family" she said it did her head in, despite asking him not to talk about this to her., he just continued....
with the dds, she says he doesnt play with them rather they just there, he wanted to take them to ikea so they could "play in the playground with you, while i talk to the kitchen man" but they had to go with him because he "wants to have quality time with his children"...
in the end dd1 got on phone to him and said she didnt want to go to ikea so he relented and they didnt go to ikea...
the kitchen is another story entirely - spending money he doesnt have on joint owned property without my consent. ugh - while CSA have assessed him as having net income of less than £5 per week!! so his contribution to dcs is zero. how can he afford a new kitchen then?
anyway:
medical appts - fine for me to say no, you dont come, will cause too much stress for me and dcs - but i will report to you afterwards?
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cestlavielife · 23/07/2009 16:44
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