Hi All,
I hope someone can help/might be in a similar situation to me...
My ex and I split 7 years ago, DD is 8 and up until Feb this year, we all lived in London, then DD and I moved to Bristol. Obviously Dad wasn't happy but we had no choice but to move from our 1 bedroomed flat.
We have always discussed things openly and (reasonably) calmly and before we moved, ex was having DD every other weekend and would visit 1 night per week (when he would get cooked dinner etc).
Since we moved, we have been trying to maintain the every other weekend visits but it is proving increasingly difficult and expensive! I travel to London approx once a month to visit my boyfriend who lives there so have taken DD to her dad's doorstep...however, things are a bit shaky with boyf and I can see that I might not be doing that for much longer.
Both Ex and I are saying we can't afford to keep paying train fares and are looking for different ways to work this. I've suggested that I take her to London on friday night and he returns her to Bristol on Sunday but he seems to think this is completely unreasonable, will cost £50+ and be a 6 hour round trip. My view is that at least we would only have to do it once in a weekend rather than twice when we meet halfway.
My query is really to sound out other parents who are in a similar situation and ask how they cope with it. Why is it MY responsibility to take her to him? Surely he should be shouldering some of that burden? At the mo, it's me taking her to him or us meeting halfway - all a bit one sided, mainly due to my guilt for moving away and also cos I always try to make it as smooth as possible.
I suppose I'm within my rights to say that she now lives here and he should be making the effort/bearing the cost if he wants to see her but I fear the repercussions if I say that!
How do you work it out when you live 200 miles away?
Thanks so much in advance
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vanniebee · 20/07/2009 13:44
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