Ok, I'm in my early 20s and I think I've fallen out of love with my dp
I'm a sahm, I'm on anti depressants and I don't know what to do.
Dd is just over 18mths and very demanding. Dp does help with her when hes not at work and she loves him to bits.
At the moment everything dp says or does just gets under my skin.
If I asked him to leave I'd be taking my dds dad away from her and I'd have to do everything on my own.
I don't know if I could cope.
And I've also worked out that I'd have about £115 a week to live on. I have old credit cards and other financial commitments that I'd have to pay too.
Sorry you're haveing a rotton time at the moment, i am in a similar situation, can you not sit him down and tell him how you feel??you might just need afew days to be on your own and then take it from there?? You need to talk to him, because he won't be able to read your mind, secondly if the worst comes to the worst and you do decide to part, lots of parents are lone parents and they cope, have you heard of home-start or sure-start, they are good organisations that get parents together etc etc, you could probably look them up on the internet to see if they have one near you. If your depressed that might to be making you feel like the situation is worse. Everyone has ups and downs in relationships, do you want to make it work?? why do you feel you have fell out of love with your dp?? What would make you happy in your relationship, is there somethine he's not doing to make you feel like this??
Above all, i hope you can work things out one way or another so you can be happy with your dd. xxx
I don't really know. I just feel really sad.
We don't seem as close as we used to be.
He does little things that drive me mad. Like not putting his washing in the basket, leaving crisp packets everywhere, not putting things away. Just silly little things.
He also says hes going to look after his little brothers for his mom and then goes down his mates-why doesn't he just tell me?
Hes always really quiet as well recently, we never seem to talk about anything. If I try and talk to him he just kind of somehow cuts it short.
Its so hard to explain...
We haven't really got much money.
I tried to get him to go to Stourport-its got like a river with boat trips and some stuff for kids, we used to have a good time there but he wasn't having none of it.
Maybe I can get him out for a meal at the pub, its always more relaxed out the flat.
I haven't got many friends but I know my family would always be there for me.
I think he would help with dd but I'd have to do all the day to day stuff by myself.
I think the main thing is I've had to grow up and since having dd and he kind of hasn't.
I guess I'll just stick it out for a while