I split with ex p at the start of the year after 2 years of nasty verbal abuse and agression. I'm on my own with 2.6 ds and 8m dd now, but lots of family help.
I managed to hold it together during all the time I was with ex p and gritted my teeth until it became clear I had to get rid of him. For the first 3 months of this year he was still harrassing and threatening me over the phone, the police have cautioned him and he's finally stopped
Since the day the police read him the riot act (and I could relax as I knew we were safe) I have been really ill, I assume its a foul virus but I wonder if its partly because I was living in such a state of stress that my body is now having to recover and get well again. Life is bloody hard with 2 little ones, but I'm usually fighting fit and starting to think this illness part of getting back to normal.
Yes. When my ex took my son I was diagnosed with depression for the first time in my life, was suicidal but had no choice but to carry on working to pay the bills. I lost 1 1/2 stone in weight in 2 weeks too.
The highlight was my boss asking me to keep `breaks' to a minimum - when I would go out of the office to have a panic attack where no one else could see me.
I got no support whatsoever from anyone aside from friends and family because as a father I was expected to `get on with it'.
Eat healthy, drink plenty of water, don't drink too much booze (easily done!!) stay positive and avoid negative people/situations. Take supplements e.g. good strong multivitamin and mineral supplement and I swear by echinacea too! Vogels brand.
Good luck and I wish you all the best.
ps just one tip if you feel nervous I take a malt drink from a tin not a bottle as that gives my nerves strength, I have always been a nervy sort (Supermalt). An acquired taste though!