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How to get over your ex when you're pregnant???

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Supercherry Mon 25-May-09 16:49:33

Admittedly this is a litle premature as I only split up with XP last wednesday. My usual method, pre-XP and DS, would have been go out alot and get sloshed, get a new man to take my mind off the old one and it would kind of work. Not the most sensible I know but that is what I did.

This time round, I have a 15mth old DS and I'm pregnant. I'm in the house every evening. I go out during the day so not a problem. Nights are shit. What can I do?

I am aware that the ex is going out alot, and I know he's going away for the wknd with the lads and I know I shouldn't care but I'm jealous.

Katrina7 Mon 25-May-09 18:33:58

are you pregnant by him and he left? i don't know what to suggest but mn has helped me a lot. in the day i keep busy but the evenings sometime are unbearable and mn really helps. x

Supercherry Mon 25-May-09 18:48:00

XP is the father of DS and my unborn child, yes. I couldn't take his nastiness any longer so I asked him to leave Wednesday. Even though it was my decision and it is for the best it doesn't make it any easier.

Katrina7 Mon 25-May-09 18:58:02

i know its not easy to be pregnant and alone, i am in the same boat. but there is so much support here and good advice. many posters have been here before and it turned out ok and they are bringing their children alone very well.

if he was nasty, then think of his bad points when you feel lonely. they say 'better to walk alone than with bad company'.

only you know how nasty he was, i don't know your story and what he did.

sunshine13 Mon 25-May-09 19:02:25

im a little bit confused who you're pregnant by...

SimpleAsABC Mon 25-May-09 19:05:15


I got dumped last week too. Sucks, eh?

You should come on mn and talk to us, makes me feel a bit better and I know he won't be on here reading stuff lol.

Fortunately I have no dc's and could get sloshed... would you recommend it?

Katrina7 Mon 25-May-09 19:14:00

what happened with you Simple? At least you don't have a baby by him. you can forget him.

Supercherry Mon 25-May-09 19:28:33

Although it's lonely during the night/evenings, the days are busy with DS. Soon you'll have that Katrina I read your story- I'm really sorry to hear what you're going through. First time pregnancy is hard enough. You'll soon forget about your ex when you've got your little one though.

Sunshine, I'm pregnant by my DS's dad. Both children will have the same father- my twat of an ex. Oooh, that felt good calling him a twat- I am trying to be nice and civil in RL and it's killing me.

SimpleABC, I certainly would recommend going out and letting your hair down. It will do you the world of good. I'm counting down the days when I can start going out again too.

Katrina7 Mon 25-May-09 20:09:17

thank you supercherry.

feel free to call him names here. it helps grin

Supercherry Tue 26-May-09 07:37:34

Are there no tips then? Just time is the greatest healer?? Damn it.

ridingjoker Tue 26-May-09 08:10:47

get friends/relatives to visit in evening. i hear your trying not to call him anything terrible.

but surely its time to get a close friend round and have a good old man-hating session.

i also find an ou course fills up my evenings when lo's go to bed.

monkeypinkmonkey Tue 26-May-09 08:26:33

My XP left me when pregnant, and I got over it by telling myself I had to for the sake of the baby. I wanted to enjoy the pregnancy and birth not be crying for some dumbshit. That was over 3 years ago now, I'm now enaged to a bloke I met at a friends wedding. It is really hard and I wish you the best of luck, I second ridingjoker, get girls around for bitching session.

Nataliew2015 Thu 18-Jun-15 15:36:01

I am in the same boat, I have been crying non stop last couple of days . When we split I never wanted to get back with him, then he came back around and talked sweet and made me believe that he really want to, then I fall pregnant unplanned, well the gyne told me it's hard for me to conceive anyways so I didn't even it was it at the time. After he got the news he was over the moon and so happy then 2 days later I heard no respond I knew something was up then he told me he didn't want the baby anymore and suggested abortion, i honestly can not describe the feelings , it was hurt betrayal. He now decided to move on with someone else, and I know she is just after his CItizenship but what can I do about it , his choice I can't change his mind even tho I begged him, I won't let myself to that low level anymore. It gets so lonely at night that I decided to go on an Internet dating site and pay for a premium membership and clearly stating that I'm pregnant and do not look for a father figure of my future child. I thought no ones would interested but surprisingly the number of blokes visited my page and sending me cheerful messages, it makes me feel so good and make me realise that not all men's are like that. I definitely don't want to move at this stage but it helps me through my loneliness. now I just hope for my pregnancy over so I see and be happy with my new born baby . He / she due on this December 2015

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