I split with DS's dad when DS was 2yrs old. The Ex had bullied me for years until I felt worthless. I'm ashamed to say that I didn't manage to leave him myself, he just got bored of me in the end.(And of course he found someone else).
Our son is 12 now and has had a chequered history of seeing his dad. Ex has, for years, insisted on regular weekend stopovers and I've spent many years watching my son being forced crying into his dad's car, because I was too scared of him to stand up for DS. Also DS seemed to come home saying he's had a nice time.
Now he is older he is putting his foot down and saying that he doesn't have to go if he doesn't want to.
But it has been a constrant strain that DS doesn't want to go there.
Ex obviously thinks that I am manipulating the situation even though I've told him that I would really like DS to spend a bit more time there. The visits are few now (maybe once a month if that).
The thing is that DS has some behavioural problems and is 'on the spectrum', so is very single minded and easily upset. He is VERY clingy to me, which is wearing, but I feel I have to protect him. The Ex is an overbearing 'alpha' male with an attitude towards society which is quite unpleasant.DS said today that he didn't want daddy controlling his life (which although I say nothing, I identify with)and that he doesn't want anything to do with him.
What can/should I do? DS is about to break another weekend date and I feel so torn.
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My son doesn't want to see his father. Should I make him go?
trulyscrumptious43 · 11/05/2009 23:48
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