I really don't know why I'm feeling bad about this but I wish somebody could tell me I'm not in the wrong.
I have been a bit annoyed with DS's dad, since he retook his life as a single man he has had a very active social life. THis has also meant that even when DS is supposed to spend time with him, DS is dumped with one or another friend so he could go out. Main irritating thing is that DS spends the week counting the days to visit his dad just to end up having sleepovers at other people's houses without seeing his dad. Further to it, DS has severe food allergies and carries an epipen, but, in order to get the babysitting he wants his father plays the problem down and has left him under the care of people who have no idea on how to keep him safe or apply an epipen should it be required.
Ex has now got a new girlfriend, she is a single mum and thankfully, now that she is in the picture, DS is not dumped here and there as often as before because they do things together with the children. I'm grateful for that.
ExH travels a lot due to his work and this has caused many problems in the past. He has always had the idea that his job is more important than mine and that I should drop everything to cover for him if he is away even if causes me problems at work. "I earn more you cope with it" was his life motto until recently when he caused me enough problems at work that I had to leave my job.
Problem is... he asked me to babysit DS on the days he is supposed to be with him so he could go in holidays with his girlfirend, aparently the thing couldn't wait as it was going to be her birthday. After much consideration I said it was ok, even if that meant that my boyfriend and I would end up with no time for ourselves for the last 2 full weeks (he also has a child so if we swap weekends with exes that means we end up taking care of one child or another all the time). Fine with it... but I asked him that in return I wanted him to baby sit for us tonight so we could finally have an afternoon to ourselves.
He rang me yesterday to say he could only baby sit from 9 as the celebrations for the birthday of the girlfriend will continue. Which obviously make it impossible for us to keep to our plans of an early dinner and movie afterwards.
After much telling me how important her girlfriends bithday is, he has offered for DS to be dumped with some friends, but just at looking at my face he said he will be here on time for us to go out... now... Why I am feeling as if I am a bad person for cutting their 2 weeks long "celebrations" short even when he initially agreed to babysit for us this evening and when boyfriend and I have not had any time to ourselves for 2 weeks so exh could go away with his girlfriend for a week to celebrate her birthday abroad?
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MeMySonAndI · 04/05/2009 11:57
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