Hello
I've posted about this in AIBU but would also like to get answers and help if possible from this board as perhaps some of you may have been through this.
ExH and I split up 3 years ago. DD is now 4. I have had new DP for 2.5 years, he lives with us and DD loves him.
ExH used to have fairly regular contact but was always unreliable - turning up late, leaving early, not changing her, not feeding her. His idea of taking her out was to put her in car with dvd player and drive her to shopping centre.
He then moved 200 miles away. He came up prob one day at a weekend and saw her for 5 hours. She spent the occasional Sat night with him.
Since Christmas she has said she does not want to go down to stay over with him anymore. She has seen him for occasional Sats but I have not let her go down overnight. He didnt turn up boxing day to pick her up and she was upset (she then went down the next day and when she came back said she didnt want to go back again).
He has:
driven her around in an unsafe car (no mot no insurance) I obviously didnt know this.
not fed her
stuck her in a car with a dvd for ages
shouted and been quite harsh with her over little things
Said bad things about me in front of her
not phoned when he was supposed to (repeatedly)
etc
She has 2 very good male role models in her life, my DP and her grandad.
The last time ExH came up he shouted at me and was quite aggressive so DP had to ask him to leave. I now do not want him in my house again. He also now has a new GF (3 months), who (long story) does not like me and calls me an evil bullying bitch. She has never met my DD and I do not want her to.
I think contact with him is just confusing for DD, is it going to scar her for life if she doesnt see him anymore? What happens if he takes me to court?
I;m so confused, thank you for reading so far.
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Paranoidornot · 19/04/2009 22:07
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