Hello All
I am new to here and write the following in a desperate attempt to make sense and move forward from recent events.
Background:
My Mother walked out on my Dad, Sister and I when I was 14. She went to live with a man she'd been having an affair with for ten years. My relationship with my mother since has been rocky to say the least but I have always tried to forget old wounds and move forward.
I am now 30 and a single mum to my wonderful 8 year old son. I have worked hard at establishing my own business, bought my own home and can afford to take frequent worldwide holidays. My son is exceeding at school and is happy. Until recently my son's father and I were great friends which we had been since we parted about five years ago.
Recent events:
Over Christmas dinner with my son, my mother asked me if it would be OK for my son to go away for the Easter holidays. It turned out that behind my back she had gone and booked a holiday to Thailand for my son and his Father to stay with my sister, who lives out there. My son had known about this for several days and was asked by his father not to say anything to me. I felt like I had been winded. I couldn't believe after all the pain my Mother had caused she could do this to me and as for my son's father, well our friendship has practically collapsed. If the situation had been different I would have said no to my son going, but because he?d been told about it and was looking forward to the trip with his father, how could I of said no? I had to put my anger and upset to one side and focus on what my son would get out of the experience.
Moving on a bit, my son's father gets a new girlfriend and falls madly in love. Despite him going behind my back with the Thailand trip, I was happy for him. Last week he informed me that he had bought his gf a ticket to Thailand and she would be joining him and my son on their trip which my mother had paid for and would be staying with my sister. Crazy hey?! To this day my son's father still has not informed my Mother that she will be joining them (I have and she is livid, but he doesn't know this). So again I was in the position of having to put my feelings aside and focus on my son's happiness. The one thing I did demand was that I got to meet the new gf before they went - I just wanted to say hello and introduce myself. I have been informed that she has no intention of meeting me as she doesn't like who I am, apparently my ex is not even allowed to talk about me. He assures me that she is a lovely person who is a great mother and a Christian. This is not good enough for me but again what do I do? Break my son's heart and tell him he can?t go when all my family are telling me to leave it alone? My family like my ex and similar to me, want him to be happy but I really feel that he's making a fool out of me. If I let this go then will people think they can walk all over me all the time? I'm full of rage about the whole thing and wish I'd put my foot down to begin with.
Thank you for reading, I know it's been long but any thoughts would be much appreciated x
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Daisy1979 · 19/03/2009 12:00
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