Blind date! To go or not to go?

[bettyboo26]

Hi, Im new to mumsnet and would really appreciate your advice. Been single now for about 6 months and have established a reasonably happy, stable life for my ds and I. Have met a bloke through an online dating site and am meant to be meeting him tonight! Aaaaaaah. Do I go?
Dont know much about the guy. Ds was up half the night and Im knackered. Will need do drink vast amounts of wine for dutch courage and DS might be up again in the night. Dont know what the hell I'll talk about. Nothing to wear! My life is finally simple after a very long time living in limbo!................ The list goes on!
Mum, Sis, Friends all think I should go.
What do you think? Am I just being an old women? Pjs infront of the tv appeals but then I do that every other night!

[kidcreoleandthecoconuts]

Go definately. You never know you might actually enjoy yourself!
Get a babysitter, get an outfit together - borrow something from a friend if you have to, have a glass of wine while you get ready.

make sure you meet him in a very public and busy place, have a get out clause in case you need it....like cant stay long the babysitter has plans etc...just in case he's a nightmare!

At least you'll get out for a couple of hours. And he might actually be lovely!

[aseriouslyblondemoment]

Hi betty!
why are you having doubts?have you only spoken to him on site or are you having text/phone convos?
if he is basically ok then i would say go.
if you are having doubts at all then dont
bear in mind nerves tho which you are bound to have
and hop onto 'the fit and interesting available men thread'too!
you are more than welcome to chip in and we're all going thru the same thing as you!

[N1]

A blind date by nature is full of uncertainty, where the risk can be worse but the good can be just as much as a surprise.

You don't know what your going to meet but you can do the preparation to be in a position to make a good first impression and make good preparation to have your own life situation prepared for you to be away for a few hours.

If you have agreed to meet, it's good to follow through with your agreement.

Look at the worsted case - you don't like the person you meet and end up leaving soon after you meet up. Better than that, you get a friend who you can go out with from time to time (and offers a male perspective) and better than that you might find someone who's company you enjoy.

Your actual loss isn't that much if you limit your thoughts to the date only. It's a short time to a few hours hours. Hardly a great loss in a life time.

Good luck with which ever decision you take.

[supervixen]

Hi! I think you go for sure!! i know its nerve racking meeting someone online like that, but once youve got past the uncomfortable first moment it can be fun! and if its not fun well you can make your excuses, leave and never see him again, youve nothing to loose. Let us know how it goes if you decide to go

[aseriouslyblondemoment]

SV you only want Betty to go so she can tell us all the details on here

[bettyboo26]

Hi, thank you all so much for replying. Oh god, looks like I have defo been out voted! Ha ha. Just wondering though, if I don't like him, how do I leave? Is the whole 'baby is poorly' phone call too cliche? And how the hell do I appear 'interesting'? Was with my x since being 16 (10 years) and am worried I will have forgotten how to talk to a bloke!! Now that is pathetic! Not that I am suggesting I havent spoken to a bloke in 10 years, just not one I may want to impress!!!

[fizzpops]

Ime if a bloke is interested they are 'impressed' if you are yourself and are interested in them. If they are not interested then no amount of jumping through hoops will make them so!

Just go out with the intention of having some fun and meeting someone to have some adult conversation with. If they turn out to be a weirdo make an excuse and leave. It doesn't have to be a very convincing excuse if you just don't want to see them again.

[supervixen]

haha asbm of course ;)

if hes boring or crazy or anything, any excuse will do as your never going to see him again anyway!

just let your natural personality shine though and youll be fine

[newlysinglemummy]

hiya how did the date go? interested as i have been single for a few months and am thinking about meeting some new people?

[bettyboo26]

Hi newlysinglemummy,
Well I went! And it was good! Did me good to realise that I have got something to say that other might find interesting/funny and that someone of the opposite sex could actually find me attractive!
Would defo do it again and would recommend it.
Have you done the dating site thing?

[notevenamousie]

So will you see him again? Well done for going!!! Hold on to that confidence - it, in all this uncertainty (I mean internet dating etc) is deserved.

[bettyboo26]

Yeah, will probably see him again although he seems abit keen! Don't suppose the poor guy can win! Defo going to keep my options open though. Quite enjoying the single life but abit of excitement wont go a miss.
A friend mentioned speed dating. Anybody tried it/would recommend it? How does it work?

[notevenamousie]

My now DP - well I think - seemed too keen. Masybe give it a little while, few weeks? Maybe the too keen thing won't be so big by then???

[newlysinglemummy]

glad you enjoyed yourself. no i have not done the dating site, what site is it?

Not sure if i would as would be worried they are all crazy, but hey my last two boyfriends i met out clubbing and were both cheaters, and the second one is a stalker. so i suppose dating site people can't be much worse?