I know that our arrangement is every other weekend and a wednesday night, which doesn't include week days, but I still need to moan.
I'm on a Uni course that's really strict about hours, and really strict about placement hours and if the kids are sick exH will not even consider taking time off with them.
I know it was my choice rar rar rar, but he likes to inform me on a weds night that 'x is feeling rough, so you'll have to stay home with them tomorrow if he's still rough' and the thing that's really annoying is his idea of 'rough' is not the same as mine, and is usually greatly exaggerated. Our ds is very good at assessing if he's well enough to go to school or not.
Last week on Weds the school said that ds hadn't been feeling himself, so exH informed me that I'd better stay home so he could drop them off in the morning. I said I had been off Uni all week (closed due to the snow) and I desperately had to see my tutor about some work and take library books back. He said not his problem, I was the one who 'insisted on being the main carer'. Short argument later and he informed me that he had a 'very important meeting' that he couldn't possibly get out of.
So I arrange with childminder that she will have him just for an hour or two so I can get the bits I needed to do done and get straight back to take him home. ExH goes mad at me saying I'm being irresponsible not caring for ds myself when he's ill and I need to sort my priorities out. I would ALWAYS rather be with the dc, but if you put one toe out of place on this course that's it, you're out, and I want to get a good job for a better life for them.
Anyways, cue Thursday morning, I'd stayed at a friends as it' s easier to get to Uni from there, and found uni was shut. So I let exH know that I'll be home for dc's, but could be up to 15min later that he'd be dropping them off at the CM, as I don't drive. He goes mad at me about how he HAS to drop them off at that time for his 'very important meeting' and I said, I'm sorry it's not my fault it's the snow.
So I race home, and wait, 20 minutes later he rings to tell me he's snowed in and shan't be going anywhere so will bring the kids round when he can get out his house. Which I'm not convinced by, there's no way he'd have been snowed in, and either way it wouldn't have cleared up by when he dropped kids off at lunch.
I just feel SO frustrated. I have no family, and apart from CM, exH and his mum, that's the only people I have to help at all. I have a few other friends who offer, but exH kicks up a HUGE screaming fuss threatening court action if he thinks I'll take them up on it (he doesn't trust any of my friends as they 'sided' with me when we split up ... )
Now this week I have my first week on my main placement, it's really important and I've had to call in every favour under the sun for childcare while I'm there.
Ds seems much better but he now has a bad cold and is screaming 'mummy i need a tissue' every five minutes and being pathetic. And I KNOW exH will be out with a 'you're going to have to stay home with him tomorrow' the second he sees him.
Sorry I'm probably being really unreasonable but it's stressing me out so much. Have so much to do , essays, exams, I try to do so much with the kids too, and things like this put my whole course in jeopardy and means I've wasted the last god knows how many months not seeing my kids as much as I would have
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lunavix · 08/02/2009 12:38
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