aibu in thinking that i have given him lots of freedom?

[stitch]

my first timme on this section, so be kind to me please.
i'm just wondering if i have actually handed him his freedom, by kicking him out? he sees the kids when he wants to see them. one phone call as to whether th ekids are free or not, and he gets to see them. meanwhile i am the one running around ferrying them here there everywhere.
i wont stop the kids from seeing their father. and he is seeing them. but always on his terms now. i couldnt go out on a friday night, as i didnt have anyone to leave the kids with. yet, he has them when he wants them.
in this at least,i think i have gotten the short end of the stick. aibu?

[piscesmoon]

Can you not get some routine into when he sees the DC?

[stitch]

obviously i need to. its just incredibly early days yet. been two weeks, and he thinks he can come back still. so no routines.

[aseriouslyblondemoment]

think it's great that you are allowing the dcs to see their dad regularly
but yes i do think that some regular agreed
time would be better
you are entitled to some me time

[piscesmoon]

Two weeks is very early days. You need to work out an arrangement to suit you all.

[ConstanceWearing]

I remember this feeling well, and 5 years down the line I still feel that most of the time XH is taking the pee out of me. As soon as things settle a bit (perhaps when he gets a flat of his own instead of sleeping on sister's sofa, IYKWIM)you can settle some firmer rules. You really need and deserve some time to yourself. You're not his paid childminder.