bored, cant do this for long

[Mumlikeu]

There are times i love being a single mum. And others i absolutely hate it. I feel so alone when my DS goes to sleep. And that is usually around 8pm. I have no like minded friends to even socialise with. Its just draining. I find it even worse at weekends. Sorry for having a moan, but i just want some advice in how to make this work. I usually go on the net, read, listen to music and as a christian read my bible and spend some time with God. In the week maybe not so bad as i know i need to be in bed earlier to get up early for the morning run. But as its the weekend, i think, ok let your hair down... but with no one to share it with...lol.

[skramblenotdieting]

Know what you mean thats why I am on here most nights, its me MN and CSI.

[N1]

I used to hate being alone. I spent all the time I was awake reading up about anything on the internet, then the chat rooms started, which I didn't enjoy for long.

I rather dearly miss being able to snuggle up on a sofa, with a DVD on and just enjoy the close company of a woman. It's not any woman that would accept that and I am not sure I want to snuggle up to anyone either. That's what I miss - that closeness of a relationship.

I don't watch soaps, but snuggling up and falling asleep - bliss.

I do maintain that it's better to be single and unhappy at being alone than in a relationship and on eggshells or varying degrees of unhappiness.

[aseriouslyblondemoment]

N1 you sound so like my kind of man

[N1]

Thanks. I don't see me as anything more than honest and trying. I have been called shallow for being picky about the type of person I choose to have a relationship with.

[aseriouslyblondemoment]

you're welcome
you just sounded honest and easily pleased by the simple things in life
a bit like me!!
lord feels a bit like online dating now..
er aren't we meant to go on instant chat now lol

[glitterfairy]

And did you?

[aseriouslyblondemoment]

er still waiting lol!!

[N1]

there isn't a chat thing on here is there.

I am easily pleased (i think). I have a few things which are more important, there after, being content is just right. Otherwise it's over done.

[Pan]

[aseriouslyblondemoment]

oh you looked then lol!!
mumlikeu sorry for the hijack btw
i am for the most part happy to have time on my own as i'm usually wiped out by the time evening comes
are there any groups within your church?
failing that can you get to know the parents of ds friends ie have an afterschool/nursery tea date?

[N1]

I didn't look for a chat facility, I just havn't seen anything that suggests that their might be one.

I don't go to church. I would expect most of the people there to be good, but I can't see me attending church to satisfy my desire for a relationship with another person. I do know some of the parents of friends of DS but they are married or co-habitating - so not a good idea that. What's left? The internet. Just have to wade through the freaks and odd people. Something good has to happen one day.

[aseriouslyblondemoment]

morning N1
the church bit was my suggestion for mumlikeu
actually!!
and yes the internet it is i guess
as probably like me all your friends are married off so the chances of going out to all the usual singles places are out now
and im not a freak/odd i hope?

[Pan]

[aseriouslyblondemoment]

[N1]

When you meet someone off the internet and they move in (if they do), do you move off the internet to spend time with the new person? or do both spend a large amount (while living together) of time on the net, maintaining links to the people they have "virtually" met.

[aseriouslyblondemoment]

evening N1
shouldn't this be a new thread as don't want to hijack mumlikeu's much more
to answer
i haven't been there as still on my own with my dcs
but yes if i lived with another man would not one hopes be on net as much as obviously my time would be taken up with my dcs and him and all those lovely things that a new relationship brings
nor would i hope would he

[N1]

I agree, the post shouldn't be hijacked. Thanks for bringing it to my attention and my apology Mumlikeu

[aseriouslyblondemoment]

apologies again mumlikeu
but that would make an interesting post N1
and i personally wondered why you had asked
so please do
so more of us can comment

[N1]

I know I am well off the topic here...lol. I can reply to posts but I can't start a new one, unless there is something I don't know about.

[aseriouslyblondemoment]

confused?
why not?
sounds interesting to me...
unless i'm missing something!!
but then i don't know your history as such
and yes tv tonite for us stay at home lone parents is pretty poor
don't leave me intrigued N1.....
lets have a discussion about this
and to remind you
we are er hijacking again lol!!
sincere apologies again mumlikeu but asbm trying to get N1 to start new thread

[ChasingSquirrels]

click on the "add new thread to this topic" in the thread title

[aseriouslyblondemoment]

see another one in agreement lol!
shouldn't we leave this up to N1 CS?
i don't want to get all strict on him now?

[Pan]

Get strict. I am running out of popcorn.

[ChasingSquirrels]

he needed idiot instructions (sorry!)

[aseriouslyblondemoment]

yeah but he might enjoy me getting strict lol!!