I was in a relationship and became pregnant at 17. Partner didn't want anything to do with child and I haven't seen him since.
Now dd is 12yo.
Over the years she has gone through stages of asking about her father and wanting to meet him and at the moment she is going through one of those stages! I have found him on facebook so it is possible for me to contact him but I'm not sure what the best thing to do is.
Basically, I've been a single parent for 12 years but I've done well for myself, went to uni, have a good job etc, and dd and I now have a very comfortable and happy life and I'm reluctant to rock the boat.
Dd and I live overseas so I believe that any negative consequences wouldn't be too awful, but still feel I could just be opening a can of worms that is better left alone.
My basic concerns are that he would deny being her father (there is absolutely no question of this), that he would completely reject her, want nothing to do with her, or just turn out to be a complete idiot. Am also slightly worried that he could force us to return to the UK, but assume this is pretty unrealistic, particularly as he is not named on dd's birth certificate.
For many years he did have the opportunity to contact us if he wanted to because he knew my parents' address, but he chose not to.
Does anyone have any experience of this or similar? Any advice or wise words gratefully received
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Dd has never met her father but wants to. Have found him on facebook.
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Mento · 03/01/2009 16:15
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