Dd's father has never once asked to see her in 5 years-I have to ring and ask if he wants to see her, and then drive her there and back (he is 200 miles away), and basically do everything involved in the process (including providing clothes etc). Since October I haven't done this as I can't afford it and it was serving no purpose as he sticks her in front of the tv until she comes home and gets one of his friends to watch her while he goes out with his girlfriends. If I don't do this he rings up and screams at me for "stopping him from seeing her", but then never arranges to see her as he is "busy" and needs to work out when he can, then never rings back. I rang twice in the past two months about xmas (he keeps saying he will ring back but never does) and he still hasn't rung back, as he is "skint and so can't work out when he will see her". I have told him it is not about presents and have even offered to hold back some presents I got for her so that she could open them at his (which is a huge gesture on my part as I chose them really carefully and have been buying bits since September as I am on a third of the income he is as I'm a student). Am fed up of hounding him-he doesn't contribute and it costs me £80 a trip on petrol and snacks/packed lunch etc to keep dd occupied on the journey there and back, yet get no maintenance or petrol money from him, and if he wanted to see her he would surely at least bother to ring. I would rather not have the stress and upset of taking her, but feel bad that she won't see her dad this Christmas, so will feel bad anyway IYSWIM.
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DD's dad not bothered about seeing her for xmas-should I bother to take her?
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Pawslikepaddington · 23/12/2008 09:38
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