For those of you who don't know, my ex-h left in April. He moved straight in with OW. We have 3 yr old dd and 2 yr old son. From the start, he barely saw them, and then went for 16 weeks with no contact (his choice).
Is now in hands of solicitors as he has filed for divorce. He saw them last Wed for 3 hours (first time in 16 weeks), and again today for 3 hrs. He is also seeing them tomorrow.
I have requested OW doesn't meet them until beginning of Dec to allow him to re-establish his own relationship with them, and this has been put to him by my solic. He is adament she will meet them sooner, and is threatening tomorrow. My solicitor has said no, and sent a very good letter outlining why, but I am aware that there is nothing I can do to stop him.
Today at bathtime, my dd was extremely upset, and said out of the blue 'daddy has a xxxxxx (OW name) now'. I wasn't quite sure what to make of this, so just said oh, and she said he had shown them a photo. She then told me daddy didn't love her, she didn't want to go to daddy's house, daddy had ignored her and only spoken to her brother and daddy had shouted at her and told her off.
Now, I don't know how much of this is true, and how much is her expressing her frustration and upset, but I don't know what to do. She seems so unhappy, and it breaks my heart because this whole situation is out of my control.
He left me, didn't see the kids for 16 weeks, and on their 2nd visit brings up his new girlfriend. My kids are so young, they are so confused, and I don't know how to make it better for them.
I can't speak directly to my ex as he has become the most vile person in the world, so I can't discuss it with him. He just shouts and abuses me, even in front of the children.
I'm getting desperate...
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kara0811 · 10/10/2008 21:24
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