My ex is a complete and utter arse!

[zmandaz]

Sorry, I've been dying to say that for ages but am having to be restrained around DD. I don't like the word 'hate' but I can honestly say that I truly hate him. He has done nothing but be nasty and abusive and even now, despite restraining orders is still sending letters firstly asking for our address (as if) and then saying that he's decided to write will which says that he will leave his new partners' kids money but doesn't want his own daughter to have any of his money. Which is fine by me, we'll manage by ourselves but why does he have to twist the knife at every opportunity. No matter how hard I try to ignore it and get on with my life it really hurts that he could be so horrid to his own child. GRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR!

[Katiekins83]

hi there! if i had an answer to this question then i would be rich! lol!
some exs are really manipulitive and very selfish...but i understand what you mean by how could he do horrid things to his own child.
my ex decided he wanted nothing to do with us, then after much persuation has started to see my son...only to come around to night and drop the bomb that it is me he wants to see more...a!$%$&!...does he think i am out of my mind!
i cam empathise with the restrant around DD, as in my head i want to curse and bad mouth my ds's father and i think if i started i wouldnt be able to stop.
just remember that you are the better parent!

[zmandaz]

Thanks Katiekins, sometimes I feel like I'm going mad with anger and frustration. I just wish he'd make a decison one way or another and stick to it. Either take responsibility for his actions and do something about his problems or walk away and leave us alone. It makes me so angry that he sees himself as the victim and chooses to ignore the damage he is inflicting on his own child. It's just so wrong. All I can say is I pity his new partner if they fall out!