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Tonight I called my boyfriend my ex H's name!!

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Pinkchampagne · 21/09/2008 01:06

I don't know how it happened, but is something I have feared happening for a while as I obviously have a lot of contact with ex H. I saw ex H when he returned the boys at 6.30pm this evening, and then my boyfriend came round at 8pm. Half way through the night I said "Do you want another drink x?" (ex H's name) Immediately realised what I had said, but it was too late! He said "Did you just call me X?"
I explained my way out of it by telling him that I have a lot of contact with ex H & feared I would one day do this, but it didn't mean I was thinking of him, and he seemed ok, but I feel really bad & a little shocked with myself. I hope he isn't too offended.

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Pinkchampagne · 21/09/2008 01:07

Ooops, it seems I have clicked to start this thread twice!!

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sallystrawberry · 21/09/2008 01:08

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Pinkchampagne · 21/09/2008 01:09

Good thinking, SS!

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sallystrawberry · 21/09/2008 01:13

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Pinkchampagne · 21/09/2008 01:15

Yes, I think I would have been a bit put out if it had been the other way round, so he was very understanding considering!

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Pinkchampagne · 21/09/2008 08:05

It wasn't like I was thinking of ex H or anything, so not sure why it happened. Guess it is because I had spoken to ex H a few hours before & I just got my names muddled - a bit like when you were young & you called your teacher mum! Will try not to do it again!

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CapricaSix · 21/09/2008 08:10

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ladytophamhatt · 21/09/2008 08:21

PC, Oh no....I'm glad he was OK with it though.

If it makes you feel any better I used to forget DH names when we were first together.
I'd have to wrack my brains for a few moments before talking more that once. Then I'd think his name was something completely differnet to what it acyually was...

Now that is bad.

I also called Ds1 Mum the other day.

I don't think theres any hope for me.....

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ladytophamhatt · 21/09/2008 08:23

I had not I'd have.

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Pinkchampagne · 21/09/2008 08:50

lol at calling your DS1 mum! shows how easy it is to get muddled! What did he make of that?!

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ladytophamhatt · 21/09/2008 08:52

he looked at me with a "WTF" type expression and said nothing....

I laughed though.

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LoveMyGirls · 21/09/2008 08:54

Whoops!

My dp called me his ex's name in bed once when we first got together, I was not amused but we're still together nearly 7yrs later and he's never done it since

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Pinkchampagne · 21/09/2008 09:05

Now that would be worse! Calling out the ex's name in a moment of passion! There wasn't that much passion in my relationship with ex H, so I hope I'm safe not to do it in bed!!

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BreevandercampLGJ · 21/09/2008 09:08

DH used to call me by his exgf's name in the early days, it used to really bother me.

I started charging him every time he did it, he soon stopped.

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Pinkchampagne · 21/09/2008 09:08

See I say I will try not to do it again, but these things are something that just happen are they not?! I obviously can't cope with two mens names in the same day! Best I never have an affair - I would give myself away immediately!!

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NotDoingTheHousework · 21/09/2008 09:09

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Pinkchampagne · 21/09/2008 09:13

That is arsehole-ness, NDTH. No wonder he's an ex!

I was mortified! As soon as it came out of my mouth, I thought "Oh bugger!"

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NotDoingTheHousework · 21/09/2008 09:17

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Pinkchampagne · 21/09/2008 09:23

My brain is easily confused!

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Pinkchampagne · 21/09/2008 09:31

How do I make sure I never do it again though?!

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Xavielli · 21/09/2008 10:02

I rarely use anyones names when I am speaking to them. I always says things such as "do you want a drink, lovely/dear etc etc"

However when me and my dp first started living together he did wake me up to see to the kids by saying his ex wifes name. I think he was more upset by it than I was cos he felt it was disrespectful to me. The way I see it is they were together for 10years, you don't just suddenly get out of the habit of using one name all the time. There is also no way to stop thinking about they when kids are involved, you can move on but there is always going to be contact. If its just a slip of the tongue then I think its over reacting to see it as anything but.

NDTH's Ex-H obv just wanted a slap.

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Xavielli · 21/09/2008 10:03

And obv I should preview before posting.

about them when

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brightwell · 21/09/2008 10:06

It's easily done, my dp has called my his by his ex wife's name 3 times so far! I've called him my ds's name a couple of times.

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CapricaSix · 21/09/2008 10:39

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Pinkchampagne · 21/09/2008 10:43

He's never done it to me, but he doesn't speak to his ex wife as much as they don't have children. I obviously communicate with ex H a lot, so it is easy to get myself in a muddle! I did it once before, but luckily he didn't hear me - this time there was no bluffing my way out of it!

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