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Tonight I called my boyfriend my ex H's name!!

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Pinkchampagne Sun 21-Sep-08 01:06:03

I don't know how it happened, but is something I have feared happening for a while as I obviously have a lot of contact with ex H. I saw ex H when he returned the boys at 6.30pm this evening, and then my boyfriend came round at 8pm. Half way through the night I said "Do you want another drink x?" (ex H's name) Immediately realised what I had said, but it was too late! He said "Did you just call me X?"
I explained my way out of it by telling him that I have a lot of contact with ex H & feared I would one day do this, but it didn't mean I was thinking of him, and he seemed ok, but I feel really bad & a little shocked with myself. I hope he isn't too offended.

Pinkchampagne Sun 21-Sep-08 01:07:06

Ooops, it seems I have clicked to start this thread twice!!

sallystrawberry Sun 21-Sep-08 01:08:14

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Pinkchampagne Sun 21-Sep-08 01:09:32

Good thinking, SS!

sallystrawberry Sun 21-Sep-08 01:13:54

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Pinkchampagne Sun 21-Sep-08 01:15:21

Yes, I think I would have been a bit put out if it had been the other way round, so he was very understanding considering!

Pinkchampagne Sun 21-Sep-08 08:05:51

It wasn't like I was thinking of ex H or anything, so not sure why it happened. Guess it is because I had spoken to ex H a few hours before & I just got my names muddled - a bit like when you were young & you called your teacher mum! Will try not to do it again!blush

CapricaSix Sun 21-Sep-08 08:10:15

Habit, too, as you were with your ex-H for so long.

I've done worse - i called my ex-dp Dad once!!!

ladytophamhatt Sun 21-Sep-08 08:21:58

PC, Oh no....I'm glad he was OK with it though.

If it makes you feel any better I used to forget DH names when we were first together.
I'd have to wrack my brains for a few moments before talking more that once. Then I'd think his name was something completely differnet to what it acyually was...

Now that is bad.

I also called Ds1 Mum the other day.

I don't think theres any hope for me.....

ladytophamhatt Sun 21-Sep-08 08:23:31

I had not I'd have.

<sleep deprived>*

Pinkchampagne Sun 21-Sep-08 08:50:25

lol at calling your DS1 mum!grin shows how easy it is to get muddled! What did he make of that?!

ladytophamhatt Sun 21-Sep-08 08:52:05

he looked at me with a "WTF" type expression and said nothing....

I laughed though.

LoveMyGirls Sun 21-Sep-08 08:54:41


My dp called me his ex's name in bed once when we first got together, I was not amused but we're still together nearly 7yrs later and he's never done it since grin

Pinkchampagne Sun 21-Sep-08 09:05:06

Now that would be worse! Calling out the ex's name in a moment of passion!grin There wasn't that much passion in my relationship with ex H, so I hope I'm safe not to do it in bed!!

BreevandercampLGJ Sun 21-Sep-08 09:08:52

DH used to call me by his exgf's name in the early days, it used to really bother me.

I started charging him every time he did it, he soon stopped. grin

Pinkchampagne Sun 21-Sep-08 09:08:54

See I say I will try not to do it again, but these things are something that just happen are they not?! I obviously can't cope with two mens names in the same day! Best I never have an affair - I would give myself away immediately!!grin

NotDoingTheHousework Sun 21-Sep-08 09:09:22

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Pinkchampagne Sun 21-Sep-08 09:13:09

That is arsehole-ness, NDTH. No wonder he's an ex!

I was mortified! As soon as it came out of my mouth, I thought "Oh bugger!"

NotDoingTheHousework Sun 21-Sep-08 09:17:19

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Pinkchampagne Sun 21-Sep-08 09:23:39

My brain is easily confused!

Pinkchampagne Sun 21-Sep-08 09:31:01

How do I make sure I never do it again though?!

Xavielli Sun 21-Sep-08 10:02:20

I rarely use anyones names when I am speaking to them. I always says things such as "do you want a drink, lovely/dear etc etc"

However when me and my dp first started living together he did wake me up to see to the kids by saying his ex wifes name. I think he was more upset by it than I was cos he felt it was disrespectful to me. The way I see it is they were together for 10years, you don't just suddenly get out of the habit of using one name all the time. There is also no way to stop thinking about they when kids are involved, you can move on but there is always going to be contact. If its just a slip of the tongue then I think its over reacting to see it as anything but.

NDTH's Ex-H obv just wanted a slap.

Xavielli Sun 21-Sep-08 10:03:41

And obv I should preview before posting.

about them when

brightwell Sun 21-Sep-08 10:06:55

It's easily done, my dp has called my his by his ex wife's name 3 times so far! I've called him my ds's name a couple of times.

CapricaSix Sun 21-Sep-08 10:39:05

Def a habit thing - if i've been seeing a lot of my sister & get her & dd's names mixed up, to both of them, often!

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