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Xp just had a go at me because I won't tell him if I am going out tonight

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IllegallyBrunette Fri 19-Sep-08 17:03:51


Took the kids to his and the convo went as follows...

HIM - Where have you been ?

ME - No where, what do you mean ?

HIM - You normally get here earlier

ME - We were looking for Ds's game

HIM - Oh, where you been today then ?

ME - (getting pissed off now) Out for lunch (only answered to shut him up).

HIM - Right. Are you going out tonight ?

ME - Might be

HIM - Well are you or not

ME - Why

HIM - Well if Dd (his elder dd) goes into labour, I am the only one who can take her.

ME - Right, well thats unlikely as she is 34 weeks, but if that should happen, ring me and I will either come collect them or you can drop them off. ( I live 2 min away from him)

HIM - Well which number do I ring if I don't know where you are ?

ME - My mobile

HIM - So you are going out then ?

ME - Might be, don't see why it matters

HIM - Cos if I know you are at home I can ringh the landline and save my minutes.

ME - I hardly think ringing and telling me you are bringing them back will cost loads, plus you could just txt me seeing as your txts are free.

HIM - Oh you always have to be fucking funny don't you, why can't you just say if you will be in or out. Tell me what you have planned

ME - No

I then walked off and came home. As I walked out of the block I heard him say to the kids that I weas being stupid and didn't care wether he could get hold of me or not because I was selfish.

IllegallyBrunette Fri 19-Sep-08 17:04:05

I'm not going out by the way.

LilRedWG Fri 19-Sep-08 17:06:06

Tosser! If he calls make sure that you turn the TV or stereo up loud so that it sounds like you are out having loads of fun, even if you are painting your toe-nails in front of a slushy movie.

LilRedWG Fri 19-Sep-08 17:06:42

Actually, the toe-nails and slushy movie sound like a plan for tonight.

IllegallyBrunette Fri 19-Sep-08 17:08:24

I was just thinking that about the music.

He just txt saying 'don't you want your money then'. He was supposed to be giving me £20 this week.

I just txt back, 'tommorow is fine'.

He is just in the mood for an argument i think.

Oh and he got me a Congratulations card for my new job hmm

sillybillybee Fri 19-Sep-08 17:09:11

angry for you, my ex used to do this too when we first split up. I did the same as you, it was none of his business and I got the same response as you did. He was only interested in whether I was seeing someone else after he split up with me and had moved his new gf in.

Keep up the good work!!!! (as annoying as it all is)

bundle Fri 19-Sep-08 17:11:14

i like your style! grin

undercovercat Fri 19-Sep-08 17:12:07

My xp has stopped this..because he has moved in abotu 18 doors up and can see whether im in or out at a glanceshock
Will you be on MSN later?
I have started on the wine already and will be fabulous company later LOL.

IllegallyBrunette Fri 19-Sep-08 17:19:18

Will defo be on MSN, am about to open my wine too.

He has just rung and spouted a load of abuse down the phone, about me being a selfish c**t.

Funny how he can go out drinking several times a week. How the hell he thinks he can drive his dd to hospital then is beyond me.

IllegallyBrunette Fri 19-Sep-08 17:21:42

He has just rung again, said he has just said to the kids how he is sick of me being devious and a liar.

I have no ckue wtf he is on about.

I know why he is doing it though, it's cos I have got that job. He don't like it.

undercovercat Fri 19-Sep-08 17:24:48

Its sad thats he spouting to the kids about this, thats going on in his head...he will just be making them feel uncomfortable.
I do know what you mean, xp shit a brick when I started working at the nursery, going on courses, MEETING PEOPLE, GETTING A LIFE.
And it was me registering as self employed(showing bollocks and determination) that split us up.
You go girl.

misdee Fri 19-Sep-08 17:24:49

he still wants to control u doesntr he?

IllegallyBrunette Fri 19-Sep-08 17:27:04

Yep he does Misdee, he just can't get it into his head that my life is nothing to do with him, and that I don't have to tell him a thing.

I just said to him, he is wasting time that he is supposed to be spending with his kids, ringing me up and slagging me off.

He now won't answer his phone, and all I want to know is if dd2 remembered to take her inhaler with her.

LilRedWG Fri 19-Sep-08 17:29:23


undercovercat Fri 19-Sep-08 17:30:41

Text him instead.

bundle Fri 19-Sep-08 17:30:42

he's jealous
and is childishly trying to rile you so that you'll feel as angry/bitter as he does sad

you are so much stronger now than when you were with him and that obviously annoys him too...

IllegallyBrunette Fri 19-Sep-08 17:41:59

Finally got him, dd does have her inhaler.

He then started having another go, so i said i wasn't wasting my minutes arguing with him, and he said 'yeah no doubt you have other people to ring'.


I said 'yeah several.

You are right bundle, he can see that I am stronger and happier without him and he cannot stand it.

He can do what he likes, there is no way I am gonna let him balls it up.

LazyLinePainterJane Fri 19-Sep-08 18:13:35

Because if his daughter goes into premature labour, the only thing on his mind will be his minutes hmm idiot.

allgonebellyup Fri 19-Sep-08 18:19:05

he is insanely jealous and he still wants you

IllegallyBrunette Fri 19-Sep-08 18:21:11

He is and he does bellyup.

I hate him.

allgonebellyup Fri 19-Sep-08 18:26:20

at least you are wanted


IllegallyBrunette Fri 19-Sep-08 18:28:36

Hmm, think i'd rather not be lol.

tiredemma Fri 19-Sep-08 18:35:56



I have been away since last friday.

tell me all about it.

(your XP is still an arse wipe I see)

IllegallyBrunette Fri 19-Sep-08 18:38:06

There you are, was wondering where you had got to, wanted to thank you for reccomending the place we went on hols, it was brilliant, thanks.

Yep I got the job, 22 1/2 hours a week on other ward to my mum grin. Will start once they have done all checks, hep B jab etc, so about 6-8 weeks.

tiredemma Fri 19-Sep-08 18:54:37

thats great news!!

Are you chuffed to bits??

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