Lately, for a while, I have been considering writing a letter/statement that details the turth about my dd's father which I would then keep in a sealed enevelope at the bank in the hope that.. If anything ever happened to me the information in it would help to protect my dd from him.
I know he can contest any will that I create which states who I wish her guardians to become. I also know the courts will take any application he might make very seriously.
Would a letter telling the truth about him be worth the paper it was written on and would the hurt and damage that it would cause be in vein or might it actually help safe guard my daughters future if I weren't here.
If he doesn't have PR then surely it would go to court? And wouldn't the court have to consider what was in her best interests? I'd have thought that would be staying with people she already had a relationship with, given that she'd already have been through the trauma of your death?
What weight would an ex partners letter have in a court of law - that person would be dead, you would not be swearing on oath at the time that the information was true. In any case do you have proof that the information was true?
Do your family have the money for a barrister and solicitor to go to court? The cost of a barristor to represent you is going to be £2k per day
The charge of bank vaults is not cheap, how much and how long can you afford?
Would your ex have any idea if you actually die? If there is not any contact would he find out, would your family keep quiet?
I'm not an expert in this area at all, so ready to be corrected by people who are, but I believe that PR can be assigned to people who arent the childs parents. Would there be any merit in applying to the court for, say, your mother to be given PR. Then maybe if anything did happen to you things would be weighted in favour of the person with PR