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about to move out with my little one...positive advice please??

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salo Fri 05-Sep-08 21:12:13

am about to move out with my 3 yr old after lots of unhappy times. could really do with some positive stories at the moment!

BBBee Fri 05-Sep-08 23:10:13


(good luck)

BBBee Fri 05-Sep-08 23:10:15


(good luck)

harpomarx Fri 05-Sep-08 23:12:58

hi salo.

all I can say is that it will be hard to begin with - but easier at the same time. You're no longer having to deal with a relationship that's gone wrong and you can focus on yourself and your child after many unhappy times.

I still remember the peace I felt when I could finally lie on the sofa at the end of the day with a good book and no nightmare dh around!

Mamazon Fri 05-Sep-08 23:16:39

Well done for having the courage to take a difficult and painfull step in orderto create a better life for you both.

I left my ex when Ds was 4 and DD was 10 weeks.

It was hard. I struggled. But every day got easier and easier until now...i can't imagine having to live with a smelly boy ever again smile

salo Sun 07-Sep-08 06:53:47

thanks guys.that's just what i need to hear at the moment. its good to hear you're not the only one...

mylittlepudding Mon 08-Sep-08 19:09:50

Good luck. I hope that the moving goes ok. I am sure there will be tough times, but there will be happy times. I feel like me again, I had been so unhappy I hadn't realised that I stopped feeling like myself.

estuaryfairy Mon 08-Sep-08 19:37:42

When DD and I first moved out, it felt so much easier, all the stress of living in a bad/unhappy relationship was lifted and I was preoccupied with sorting the house out etc. It did get tougher a couple of months in, not having someone to share the little things with, I guess, and the weight of responsibility of everything on your shoulders, but you do get over it/used to it, and bringing up your child in a good environment, doing it yourself and having that incredibly close bond makes it so worthwhile. In my case, every time I felt weak, I thought of xp telling me I'd never cope on my own and would be calling him begging for his help, he even once told me I'd probably kill myself angry! Five months down the line and DD and I are fine, I still have a few bad days, but I know they'll pass, and I had more bad days while living with xp tbh. I would never go back and my DD is the happiest baby. You'll be fine and so will your LO. In a few months time you'll be feeling really proud of everything you've achieved, on your terms. Good luck.

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