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25 years ago today...

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mamalovesmojitos Sat 23-Aug-08 12:46:58

i was born.

to a scared, lost seventeen year old mother who was in an abusive relationship.

she went through her pregnancy in a strange city with a strange family to keep it a secret- so i could be given up for adoption.

however this girl found some strength and asked her parents could she bring me home.

they agreed. life was difficult - she was talked about, her boyfriend emotionally and physically terrorised her, i never slept, the first course she paid for to get on the career ladder ended when the college went bust, taking her money. but she kept going on.

eventually her boyfriend was convinced to leave by her family when his violence was discovered. he left when i was one.

25 years later my mother is in a marriage to the man of her dreams. they completely adore each other. she has a big family, beautiful children, a lovely house, wide circle of friends. she is fit, healthy, beautiful and happy. she works hard but she has travelled the world.

things can go wrong in life, awfully wrong. but you just need to hold on and keep working towards something better. never give up.

i don't really know why i'm posting this. i just wanted to acknowledge my mum. and to show you all that there can be happy endings. what all you lone parents are doing is amazing, and your children will be so proud of you. i'm so proud of my mum.

wotulookinat Sat 23-Aug-08 12:53:48

That's lovely. Well done to your mum smile

tribpot Sat 23-Aug-08 12:59:15

Happy birthday to you - and to your mum.

Pinkchampagne Sat 23-Aug-08 13:04:13

How lovely. Well done to your mum - pleased she has found such Happy birthday!

beeny Sat 23-Aug-08 13:04:56

Really lovely story cheered me up

mamalovesmojitos Sat 23-Aug-08 13:30:28

thanks for replies smile.

PookiePodgeandTubs Sat 23-Aug-08 13:35:42

I'm so glad your Mum is in a hppy marriage now. She really deserves it. AT the risk of being 'mawkish' here, I bet she is extremely proud of you too.

PookiePodgeandTubs Sat 23-Aug-08 13:36:55

PS Happy Birthday Mamalovemojitos! smile

BoysAreLikeDogs Sat 23-Aug-08 13:41:54


Thank you for sharing

gillybean2 Sat 23-Aug-08 13:45:31

Happy Birthday. Good to hear that your mum (and you?) found happiness after such a tough start in life.

Hope you have a wonderful day and that you let your mum, as well as us know, how special she is to you. She probably know, but it's nice to hear it too I think!

Aimsmum Sat 23-Aug-08 14:14:27

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mashedup Sat 23-Aug-08 18:37:42


That is a great story, and gives hope to us all. Have a great time.

mummyfantastico Sat 23-Aug-08 18:46:48

Brought a tear to my eye!
Happy Birthday!

CvQ Sat 23-Aug-08 18:48:25

totally heartwarmingsmile
happy birthday!

mamalovesmojitos Sat 23-Aug-08 22:19:32

thanks everyone.

just back from dinner in my mum's house. gillybean i brought her flowers! couldn't say much as my family aren't big on 'talking'. i think she understood.


SheSellsSeashellsByTheSeashore Sat 23-Aug-08 22:23:28

what a great story. your mum is an ispiration.

and happy birthaday smile

zippitippitoes Sat 23-Aug-08 22:25:32

what a lovely post i cried too

i have dds your age but was with their dad until they were teens

but last year my dp left and my dd1 sent me a card a few months later saying how much she saw me as a role model and a survivor and how much she admired how well i had brought her and the sibs up

so i am sure everything you say to your mum like this makes her so happy she did her best and you love her for it

thats how i feel when my kids say these things to me..and when i am down it gives me strength

smile thank you for sharing

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