as a bloke, I will say you are not worthless glitzypinks, it is he that is worthless one here.
NO matter what the circumstances, there is no excuse to go and cheat on someone. when you are together, if there are problems you should tackle them and not go out and find false solace with someone else.
I agree with gilly too. sometimes to avoid the confrontation that my ex was so good at, I told lies, the biggest of which was not actually a lie but an omission of truth by not telling my ex her godmother had tried it on with me and my rejection (well revulsion is more like it ) was thr reason that our working relationship was going down the pan (my exs godmaother was a director of our business and was becoming more involved in its running) If I had told her the truth, she would not have believed it as her godmother was one of those people who can tweist anything and was like a mother to my ex as well and overall I thought the situation would be worse. other than that I always encourage my son and his 5 cousins who are regular over nighters in my house that I do not tell them off for things they do wrong unless they try to hide what they did. if they tell me, then we work it out, repair or whatever and this alos registers my disapproval but they know that the truth is best. but back to the original post, glitzypinks, you are not worthless, you do not deserve to be cheated on, no one does, if he hasn't the balls to talk to you about problems or he thinks you are not enough for him and he needs something else, then hes the worthless one and you should be holding your head up and now taking charge of the situation. as for swearing on his childs life when knowing his oath is false, well loosing his balls would be too good if you ask me!!