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There is alot of research out there that concludes that men who are violent to their partners may well go on & be violent to their children. I wouldn't take any risks. And children witnessing violence can be psychologically damaged. 'Usually' being a good dad isn't enough

Not without someone else you trust being there NO

You need someone who can safely supervise contact,otherwise he shouldn't see her.
Social services supervise my ex. He wasn't violent to me but he was to my DS1.

no
agree with alice30

No. I have been where you are.

No. And tell him it is his own fault.
Any man who acts in such a way does not deserve time alone with his child.

ive been there and have regreted it ever since i was pregnant with my 5th child i had a complicated pregnancy (health) and i had finished with my ex. i needed help suport and a break and when he took the kids for contact i would do housework etc. convincing myself he was a good dad and although he was violent towards me.the kids had never witnessed it and he had never abused them. contact cont after time it was clear to see the effect it was having on my kids they were being mentally and emotionally abused so i contact stopped now my children have to recieve therapy im more stressed and guilty and angry that i was in denial at what a nasty man he was.i now know his capabilities and would never trust him no matter how much i want him to change.

only supervised visits...otherwise...NO