I have my DD, I don't get any maintenance, and we manage.
Would you rock the boat to get what you are "entitled" to? To be honest I haven't even asked XP because
- I am being stubbornly, stupidly proud and I want to be able to cope with everything myself
- He will make me feel guilty
- I earn more than him - but I do pay £700/month childcare and all her clothes/ food/ entertainments. Maybe that cancels it out
- I hate confrontations
- I don't want to feel indebted to him - or anyone - for anything.
- I have moved to live away, with our dd - so I fund his trips to see her (as they are at weekends whilst I work)
I wonder if it is doing negative for dd though - I am not saving, though I manage everything else, and if I had any maintenance, I could be saving that amount from what I earn. Maybe I would be thankful to have that money one day, or maybe we could get out of our little flat to a house with a garden and a cat, or a host of other maybes.
I know I am lucky, to be able to cope. I just wanted to hear opinions really.