Last night we were sitting as normal and ds suddenly bursts into tears. When I asked him what was wrong he told me his dad constantly shouts at him. He loves his dad and wants to see him, but wishes he would just be nicer.
On talking more ds said he wanted to tell me something but I must promise not to tell his dad. I promised. He said his dad hits him. When I asked how, he said that "when I play up, he smacks me around the head. It doesn't hurt but it upsets me". ("play up" is not a phrase ds would use, its obviously something he's heard from his father).
At this point, I found it very hard not to lose my temper. We've had lots of problems with his dad letting him down, not turning up, having no interest...I've stopped contact twice because of it. But I never imagined his dad would start to hit him. Im under no illusions here, I have a dd who can be very naughty at times and my ds is not naughty. He can be moody, or hyper where he laughs, screams and runs around but he is not a naughty child. Ffs sake, his dad only has him one day a week, can he not even cope with that? Ds said his dad also hits his (6 year old) stepson around the head. I asked if his mum knew. Apparently she does and says nothing about it.
Dont get me wrong, if I thought for one second he would beat ds, or ds was in any danger at all I would stop the visits straight away. But when he slaps ds around the back of the head I think its to humiliate him more than anything. Ds is such a sensitive, gentle little boy and he does not deserve that kind of treatment.
Im so angry I want to tell the bullying egotistic twat that if he ever lays a hand on my son again I personally will make sure he knows how it feels but I cant break ds's trust. I promised him.
What do I do? .
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So ds tell me this, and I want to tear his father limb from limb....
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AngryMother · 03/08/2008 20:09
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