Urm, the minister was a priestess... So sorry no, didn't even think about that one.
Was awful. There was no dancing and no I didn't drink but that isn't why it was awful. It wasn't a disco type party afterwards and it was bring your own everything (including drink) as was in a field in the middle of no-where. I hadn't brought any alcohol as I don't drink. And I was intending to drive home as I'm not a camping person and had said I would give the bride's mum a lift if her other lift left too early for her.
The groom is in a band (not big but quite popular in our area), and he and his now wife also sing together as a couple and are into their gigging stuff and making CD's and stuff. Not big stuff but they're hoping for their lucky break someday I think.
They have loads of friends/other groups & player into the same thing and many of them were doing a set throughout the evening. Not especially dance type music and most of it their own original compositions. The tent was so full there wasn't room to dance really and lots of people hadn't thought to bring their own chair so were sitting on the grass anyhow. There was no scope for mingling and I, misery that I am, sat with my fingers in my ears after a while as the music was threatening to burst my ear drums. They really hurt today and I had to leave when a particularly loud set started and the happy couples around me got too much. Absolutely no scope for mingling let alone introducing yourself to a stranger. And I was on my own most of it as my son vanished off into teh distance with the other kids with their biks and footballs and he only appeared when he was hungry or wanted his kite!
I had been up really early cooking and getting tent over there and stuff and was pretty tired so ds & I went back to our tent at 10pm. We could hear the music from there, much nicer at a decent level too. And after the embrassesment of the ceremony itself I just didn't want to be there as I was still so angry and upset. And yes everyone seemed to be in happy couples which added to the misery.
Maybe it's my perception of it, and maybe they're having blazing rows the rest of the time. But friend next to me was sitting on her chair with her husband behind leaning over, touching her shoulders ocassionally, wandering off together when she needed something from their caravan etc. Another couple sat in the grass with their three children gathered about them obviously really happy. Someone else joking with her hubby over the single spare chair and then when she wanted to get a coat they wandered off together mumbling something about 'she won't be able to open it herself' and returning a while later with rug to sit on, coat etc. Everyone else laughing and joking and getting pissed and me being miserable.
Maybe happiness is akin to how much alcohol you drink and that's why i'm miserable perhaps!? Even if I wanted to drink I couldn't afford too though!
Anyhow I did what was suggested and asked my friend if she knew anyone else there and she didn't! So she couldn't introduce me to anyone else. She and her husband were hanging around with my parents (who they are friends with) and I wasn't going anywhere near my father while I was so angry at him. She's slightly older than me, her husband quite a bit older than her, my mum quite a biut younger than my dad. So seems but but in actual fact my dad and her husband are basically have drinking and motorbikes in common.
But what kind of person in the middle of a wedding ceremony (ok a slightly unusual and unorthodox ceremony but still a ceremony after all) says in a voice loud enough to hear 'This is a load of crap'!?
That was the final straw for me after several loud comments and me having to ask him and my friend's husband to hush and to have some respect. When asked 'respect for what?' I said for the bride and groom of course! Friend's husband quieten down after that, he is also a friend of bride and groom's after all. But then my dad made that commeent in far too loud a voice and I'm afraid I turned around and told him to respect other people's beliefs and if he couldn't he should leave. And when he tried to argue I simply said 'no, leave' and turned around as I wasn't going to discuss it in teh middle of the service. After which he did shut up. But frankly how awful is that for someone to have to put up with at their wedding. Heckling for goodness sake!? And I felt bad for saying somethig too which obviously I tried to do quietly but...
I really don't think anyone should have to put up with that no matter what their belief or religion. I don't think I'm being unreasonable! I didn't speak to the bride about it afterwards but I'm pretty sure she must have heard something of it, but didn't wantto mar the weekend any futher by bringing it to her attention if she hadn't. I will talk to her in a couple of days, but I shouldn't be apologising for my dad's behaviour. And his excuse that he's an old fart who is completely intolerant is rubbish. Don't come to a wedding and say things like that. I'm sure he wouldn't of been happy had someone said such a thing during my sister's catholic wedding, and he's not a catholic either!
My parents weren't even invited originally. They blagged a ticket after hearing about it. When my friend told me they were asking about it I wasn't happyat all. Dad said to me at one point 'so are you going to this piss up in the field' to which I firmly told them it wasn't a piss up in a field. I explained it was a wedding, with a hand fasting ceremony (explained what that meant)and that it was very important to the couple. And they were having a party to celebrate afterwards but it certainly was not a piss up in a field. And yes I was going as I was a friend of t eh bride and had been invited.
So my friend was saying how they were after an invite and how she was staying out of it. And I certainly didn't mention anything to my friend getting married about it. But obviously someone did coz when she saw my parents at an event last weekend she asked them if they were coming along then...
I'm just so angry about the whole thing. And very tired as we did stay the whole night and my ds was having a wonderful time. My back is paying for it today though.
Am consolling myself with crisps and hot chocolate as it's the only misery food I have on the house.
Still, I guess it could of been worse...!?