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Feeling a bit lonely & low this evening

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Pinkchampagne Sun 27-Jul-08 21:15:59

This isn't like me at all, I am normally pretty happy with my own company & the remote control!
Have had quite a busy weekend with a friends party last night, then went back with my boyfriend (who I see once or twice a week), and today I spent the day with my friend. I walked into my little house early this evening & felt really low. Been feeling lonely & a bit fed up ever since. I guess it is because I have had quite a bit of company this weekend & I am now back to the reality of my life alone with the boys. It will pass won't it?!

ChasingSquirrels Sun 27-Jul-08 21:17:06

yes, it will pass.

pinkspottywellies Sun 27-Jul-08 21:19:23

Hello! Saw a fellow Pink in need smile

Glad you had a lovely weekend and I'm sure this feeling will pass soon. Think about all the good things about your boys that make you smile.

used2bthin Sun 27-Jul-08 21:28:51

I get like this too, always when I've had lots of company or been out the night before. It does pass I usually feel ok in the morning so being on here or reading or something helps. Or is there a friend you can ring?

Pinkchampagne Sun 27-Jul-08 21:31:06

I know. I guess it is just a bit of a deflated feeling after being around people a lot the last couple of days. Boys had a good day playing with my friends boys today. When they got in DS1 said "I miss daddy" (he stayed there last night)
It isn't like me to feel all lonely like this - I normally quite look forward to my chill time in the evening.

used2bthin Sun 27-Jul-08 21:36:28

I do too but know exactly that feeling after having a busy time. My friend says he hates clearing up after people have been round because its like they were never there so he feels it too and he's very happy being single. I have just eaten lots of crisps and biscuits to cheer myself up for similar reasons actually, next best thing to company grin

Pinkchampagne Sun 27-Jul-08 21:50:46

Crisps & biscuits sound like a good plan! i think I have some chocolate in the fridge too, so that may help!
I guess I'll probably feel better after a good sleep!

used2bthin Sun 27-Jul-08 21:56:41

You will do. Let the chocolate warm up first though,cold chocolate shock wink

zookeeper Sun 27-Jul-08 22:02:20

I get like this - i will be fine most days, sometimes euphoric, and then out of the blue being s lone parent and the weight and loneliness and responsibilty of it hits me like a ton of bricks

have you been single for long PC? It's been a year for me and only now am I sinking into the reality of it.

Pinkchampagne Sun 27-Jul-08 22:17:15

It has been just over a year that I have been on my own properly, zookeeper. I moved into this house last May after living with ex H for nearly a year after deciding to separate as we were waiting for house to sell.
I have been feeling very overwhelmed with being a single parent recently, as the boys (especially DS1) have been playing me up a lot. I still normally look forward to my chill out time in the evening, but this evening I felt all low and lonely from pretty much the second I walked through my front door.

zookeeper Sun 27-Jul-08 22:22:37

Well I do too PC - I think it's the weather - I keep imagining perfect families doing shiny happy things. I'm wallowing a bit but this lone parent business is bloody hard work.

At least we're not in a bad relationship any more - ther's nothing lonelier than that

pinkbubble Sun 27-Jul-08 22:28:09

Oh PC, you should have rang me, I would have popped down and cheered you up! Would have told you of the funny events from leaving your house on Friday night!!!!!! Our FRIEND is a mad woman! But great fun!

Honestly whenever you feel like this please ring/text. I have been in this situation more times than I care to remember!

Chin up chuck!

Pinkchampagne Sun 27-Jul-08 22:32:14

Oh yes I totally agree there, ZK! I am a lot less stressed generally now. I find it very tough dealing with the boys on my own sometimes, but I am out of a very unhealthy relationship where I felt I was constantly walking on eggshells. I have met a very lovely new man who I get to see a few times a week (we live in different towns & he works very late shifts Mon-Fri), so in general I am a lot happier. I am normally happy having my own space too, so it is not that I can't cope being alone. Tonight though, I seem to be having a funny turn!

Pinkchampagne Sun 27-Jul-08 22:35:14

Thanks PB!smile Just having a funny 5 minutes this evening for some reason - it will pass!
Do fill me in on Friday nights events though - I know our friend is a mad woman!grin What has she been up to?!

MummyJules Sun 27-Jul-08 23:05:07

Hey -

I know exactly how you feel. Single mother here, living on her own and feeling so damn lonely it's hurts! Most of my friends are either in relationships and therefore don't have as much time on their hands as they used to or are back home from uni.
I'm trying to get stuck into doing all those things that I need to do and spend more time with DD but I can't help feel horribly depressed and sorry for myself!

Pinkchampagne Mon 28-Jul-08 10:06:13

Sorry to hear you're feeling down, MummyJules. It can feel very lonely at times can't it?

Most of my friends are married/in very serious relationships, but I do see my friends when I can.
I actually felt it more last night because I had seen a lot of friends over the weekend. Think it was a bit of a come down after being around people a lot.
When I have been alone for most of the week, I get pretty used to my own company & don't feel it as much, but after being around people & then coming back here, I felt a bit "ohhhh"

piratecat Mon 28-Jul-08 10:12:12

it hurts, yep.

it passes, yep.

hope you have a better day today.x

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